Keeping in Touch with Old Friends

After graduation, be it from high school or college, you begin the next journey in your life. For some, this journey may be a continuation of school; for others, it may mean diving into the workforce, etc. Wherever your journey takes you after graduation, it is very likely that you will lose touch with many of the friends you have made along the way. If you want to keep in touch with those friends, keep the following in mind.

Send e-mails. This is the easiest way to stay in touch, especially if you live far away from your old friends. Try to e-mail your friends at least once a month to let them know what has been going on in your life. If you have a group of friends, you can send an e-mail to all of them at once, but it's probably better for the friendship if you personalize an e-mail for each friend (you are more likely to get a response if the e-mail is personalized). Attach pictures to give your friends a visual of important events in your life.

Pick up the phone. Your friends are only a phone call away. If you see something that reminds you of a certain friend, if you have big news that you want to share, or if you're just thinking about one of your friends, pick up the phone and call him. It's always nice to hear the voice of a friend on the other end of the line.

Don't forget birthdays. Sending birthday cards to your old friends is a good way to keep in touch, and it lets them know that you are thinking of them. While sending an e-card is sufficient, sending a card through snail mail seems a little more heart-felt.

Plan annual reunions. Having annual get-togethers will allow you and your friends to catch up and spend quality time together. If you live relatively close to your old friends, you may be able to have get-togethers more often than just once a year. The little reunions can range from a weekend trip to a casual lunch. If you have a group of friends, rotate who will be in charge of planning the get-together each year, so it's not left up to just one person.

Consider social networking websites. There are many websites that help you stay in touch with friends, e.g. Orkut, MySpace, Facebook, etc. More and more people are creating accounts on these websites every day, so even if you have already lost touch with some of your friends, you may be able to get in contact with them again through these sites. Just keep in mind that by putting your information on the Internet, you are making it easily accessible. Don't post pictures or words on your profile that you wouldn't want a potential employer to see. Furthermore, if you interact with people you do not know, be cautious about the amount of information you reveal or agreeing to meet them in person. To stay safe, avoid posting your full name, address, phone number, or schedule.

It takes effort to keep friendships strong, especially when you don't see your friends every day like you did in school. If you have friends that mean a lot to you, make sure you put forth the effort to stay in touch. You'll probably regret it a few years down the road if you don't.

Relationships - Frm my old Archives.

I have been putting off writing this for over five years, so a lot of the thoughts here are ones that have been brewing in my mind for a while. The reason I am finally writing this now is because I'm over a long (five year) relationship with someone I cared deeply about; I didn't really feel an urgency to put down my thoughts about relationships as long as I was involved in one. Unlike all my previous relationships (which were more than two handfuls, double entendre intended), this was a relationship that I didn't think would end and one that I didn't want to end. However, certain events (mostly screw ups on my part) occurred with the inevitable result, and now I am faced again with the prospect of not knowing whether I will be with someone I seriously care about. Thus this missive about my views on relationship and love which formed after a series of several relationships when I was a lot younger (I was 22 as I write this). This is simply an addition to the rest of my philosophical missives. The major difference is that this one is written in first person, but like all the others, the goal is to put my thoughts on paper. The first person use may sound like I'm looking for someone, but you could in general replace all occurrences of "I" with "you" and might end up finding some truths for yourself in here.

A brief background: both people who know me and don't know me can easily see I have different passions and interests: science, philosophy, music, nature, sports and many many more. In previous relationships, I spent more time immersed in those passions than with the person I was in a relationship with. In an ideal world, I would go as far as to say that the person I was with didn't make me feel that she was primary and that my other passions were secondary. However that would be doing my own feelings and the person I was with a grave injustice. In reality, it is far too easy to be selfish and to take things for granted, without realising how short you come up in the relationship department. In the particular five year relationship that I didn't want to end, by the time the issue of me ignoring her was brought up, it was too late, regardless of what I did to save the situation. In fact, what I did, a sudden turnaround, only made it worse. For when you ignore and neglect someone over a period of months, whatever chemistry you had, even if it was the absolute best, gets lost and unhappiness sets in. The moment I realised what had happened, I promised to change, and I have changed, not just for the person I was with and perhaps will be with, but for my own self.

So the first lesson here is that in any relationship that becomes stale, there are underlying reasons. I think it behooves us all to determine what those reasons are, and if they have to do with you, think about why that is and what can be done for the next time.

This sounds a bit preachy, but what I am trying to say is that it's all too easy to rescind the responsibility for one's actions and this is one of the biggest threats to a relationship.

When I was really young, when the idea of relationships didn't have any meaning to me, I was completely content with myself. I didn't need anyone to complete my life in any manner and there was never a time when I couldn't occupy myself. When I started getting into serious relationships, in my mid-to-late teens, I was completely content except for the brief periods during the ending phase of a relationship, but I had everything a person could want in life. Now I am single and I'm still completely content. This is partly the cynical side of me speaking, but it's true because I've always thought relationships to be a tradeoff between freedom in exchange for close companionship, i.e., exchanging one set of complications for another (to quote from Stigmata).

"Before you can learn to say 'I love you', you must first learn to say 'I'."

The problem, if you could call it that, has always been that I love myself way too much. I enjoy my own company. I can amuse myself for endless hours. This doesn't mean I'm not with my fears and insecurities that don't require support from other people, but assuming nothing is shaking my world, I'm perfectly fine hiking the Grand Canyon by myself or reading the latest comic books. In fact, I almost prefer it that way. I think this is the essence of a good relationship, wherein both partners are happy and comfortable with themselves, but taken to an extreme (i.e., if they're too comfortable with themselves, or worse, if one of them is comfortable and the other is not), it can lead to emptiness.

I say above that I changed for myself and now have decided to spend a certain amount of time with whoever I end up being with. Why?

Because even given all my interests, I stopped doing (or didn't do) certain things that I enjoy doing. These are the simpler things in life that are less productive than solving a scientific research problem, writing software to fold proteins, writing a song, or coming up with a new scheme to thwart intellectual property. These include bubble blowing, kite flying, rollerblading, yo-yoing, playing on the swings in a park, listening to the ocean in the evenings/night, etc. (I suppose hiking would fall in that category also, though I'm more avid about hiking than I am about blowing bubbles.) These days I still do these things by myself, and I enjoy them, but I have come to realise is that it can be just as much fun (or more) doing these simpler things in life with someone else. Being with someone else forces you to do things you normally wouldn't do, which might be more fun than some of the things you do do. In fact, that's the best part of a relationship: the uncertainty, the random variable, that arises from not knowing and understanding another person completely. Being in a relationship makes life far more unpredictable and this is A Good Thing.

At the present moment, at the outset, I enjoy being with myself way too much to want to be in a relationship. However, I figure I will change my mind when I meet someone and certain sparks fly, as I have in the past. To me, the essence of a relationship lies in being close friends. This may sound corny, while I think physical chemistry is important, in the long term what matters are whether you can talk to your partner as you grow old. Thus it would be nice to share all the things I do above, the simpler things and the complicated things. Continuing on with this line of thought, I think it's not a great idea to get into a relationship for relationship's sake.

That is, as the friendship develops, if stuff happens, that's great, and if not, that's great too. I think looking for a relationship generally is detrimental to ending up in one.

One final point I want to make involves people being scared of caring about someone deeply or commitment (see thoughts on love below).

I think passion is important, and I think one should "follow their heart", whatever that means. However, impatience (sometimes confused for intensity, but it really stems from being passionate) can indeed destroy a blossoming relationship since it goes against societal norms. I am an extremely impatient person and this is both a virtue and one of my biggest flaws. Rather than play the waiting game, I'd rather push things even if it means a certain negative answer. In particular, this makes long-distance relationships untenable. It is strange to me that society views "moving too fast" to be a bad thing, and perhaps this is generally based on some valid reasons, but applying this to every case I think is wrong: it's easier to push people away than to let them in, and I think taking the secure/easy path leads to emptiness. I think sometimes you can end up in a relationship like in the movies, and when you do, there's nothing wrong with being impatient and going too fast. So if you feel you're in one of those, my advice is to not hold
back---that will determine whether it really is like in the movies or not.

I think a passionate relationship, even if short-lived, is worth the pain. I love like I've never been hurt.

Love - Frm my old Archives

So what is love? The big picture answer is that romantic love is a biologically driven phenomenon. It has been selected for because it helps our genes to propagate, along with a complex set of other qualities, and they're not independent of each other, i.e., the state of "being in love", "lust", "jealousy", "anger", "trust", and many many others, are all tied together in a complex way and it's really not a clever thing to separate them out. It's a complex function of the interactions happening within us.

But what is the nature of that state from an individual perspective? That's more of a personal thing and it's hard to describe. To me, being in love has many components but at its core is the view that you will do anything for the person you're in love with (cynically, this could be viewed as "putting up"). Your passions, etc. are SO strong that nothing the other person does could be bad in your eyes (i.e., you become very accepting). All this means that you essentially give up control of your emotions, etc. to the other person.

It's a scary feeling to most people (and most people who have issues with trust, etc. have a hard time falling in love) but to me it's very exhilarating. Essentially you give yourself over to the other person. Since the state of being in love is ultimately biologically driven, it has a strong sexual/physical component to it (i.e., what people call "chemistry"). But that's not enough to sustain the feeling and for that you need an intellectual and emotional compatibility (this is also discussed more below).

One experiences different kinds of love as one moves through life, but romantic love is an amalgamation of all or almost all of these other loves, and then some. For example, a romantic partnership might sometimes have characteristics of a parent/offspring or sibling relationship, and universally of a great friendship. This is usually witnessed as a romantic love-based relationship progresses over time.

There are a few quotes in my quotes page which would aptly describe "love" from different perspectives. I think the concept of love invented by society is fiction (Plato called it a grave mental illness), particularly the various idealistic versions of it.
Sartre considered love and relationships to inherently be a cycle of sado-masochism. That is, a person caring about another person generally wants the other person to reciprocate, but yet any action that compels reciprocation will lead to dissatisfaction. In other words, the person who is doing the loving wants to be loved, but yet does not want force the love and wants it to happen on its own accord. So in any given situation, the person who is doing the loving will objectify the person who is receiving it, compelling them to reciprocate (sadism). However, the person who does the compelling is not content when the love is reciprocated because he/she knows it was because of the objectification (masochism). This begins an escalating cycle of objectification generally culminating when the relationship ends.

Objectification in a relationship I think is just as bad as emotional or physical abuse (and is possibly the cause of abuse in many cases). I am against objectification: every time I begin a relationship I always worry that I will end up objectifying or being objectified. I think it is possible to overcome objectification and I think it requires the cooperation of all the people in a relationship. I think successful relationships (in all walks of life, not just romantic ones) are ones that step around the objectification problem.

This theme is epitomised excellently (and humourously) in The Simpsons and Akbar and Jeff cartoons by Matt Groening. I personally see The Simpsons or Akbar and Jeff to be the most realistic portrayal of relationships and love. Obviously few of us are like Homer and Marge Simpson, but the general idea of why there exists such a deep commitment between the two of them I think is a valuable thing to pick up.

So ultimately love I don't think is an emotion or a feeling, but rather a state of existence for and between two people. That is, love is the interaction between the partners in a relationship. This may vary based on the type of the relationship---it could be dysfunctional, as in The Simpsons, or sado-masochistic (as in the play Quills), or consummate (as in Romeo and Juliet). In an ideal world, love is a Zen-like state, where two people are together as one. (While this description appeals to the romantic side of me, the cynical side of me gags at such a statement---perhaps this is how it should be.) But we don't live in an ideal world, and no matter what, there's bound to be an imbalance---if the imbalance/assymetry is too much (i.e., one person cares too much and the other person doesn't care enough), then it's bound to frustrate. In such situations, it's better to end it completely (cut your losses) rather than end up in an objectifying cycle which will inevitably lead to a bad ending.

So what is my ideal of a great relationship? Everything I say below is except-able. That is, there are no absolutes and this isn't a box. In fact, I almost refrained from writing this because I've learnt that people aren't perfect (d'oh!), and more importantly, to not expect perfection. This is a good thing, because it would make a relationship very boring. But I'm going to say what my ideal is anyway. For now and always, I want someone I can do things with. I want someone I can see myself growing old with, someone I can be with when I am sixty. Such a statement requires the ability to think quite a bit ahead into the future, because for all my talk above being content alone, I am not convinced I'll feel the same way thirty years from now. I want someone who will be what they are and not change (personalities) just to make a relationship work. I want someone who knows what they want.

Exclusivity is also important to me personally. I'm a passionate person and I give a lot of my time and energy to the person I care about. In the end, all of it comes to naught if there's nothing to sustain and nourish it (i.e., if it's not returned). If someone isn't willing to be exclusive to you, and you are to them, then it ends up in a assymetric/objectifying situation. But besides some health-related reasons, the primary reason I think exclusivity is important is because of the energy you put in. For me also, it is how I fall in love.

However, I'm also a firm believer of the adage that you can't force a relationship, and so I think I want someone who, when they're unhappy for whatever reasons, even if the reasons are unfair, will work through it with me instead of bottling it up or pushing me away when things get tough. I want someone who is not afraid to trust or to get too close. I want someone who'll question me, who won't let me get out of line, who will correct my mistakes regardless of how stubborn I am, who will continually challenge me and will be able to deal with being challenged. And most important, an ideal relationship would be one where it is extremely casual and intense at the same time, much the way it was with my friends in first grade when I was five, possessing both passion and naivete.

Keep in mind that the moment I say I want these things, I'm beginning my objectifying process. So in reality, I just believe in going with the flow and seeing what happens---this has led to some incongruous relationships, but, as they say, 'tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. The sky is blue, the grass is green, and either you're in a relationship that makes you happy, or you're not. While it hurts each time you emotionally commit yourself to someone and that commitment is lost, I think those feelings enable you realise that you exist in this world. Also as I say above, I think it's not likely that one can find a relationship by looking for it.

This is corny (and extremely over-used), but the song Somebody by Depeche Mode, although demanding in tone, captures many of the things I've written above lyrically.

I want somebody to share,
share the rest of my life,
share my innermost thoughts,
know my intimate details;
someone who'll stand by my side
and give me support.
And in return
she'll get my support.
She will listen to me
when I want to speak
about the world we live in
and life in general.
Though my views may be wrong,
they may even be perverted,
she'll hear me out
and won't easily be converted
to my way of thinking.
In fact, she'll often disagree.
But at the end of it all,
she will understand me.

I want somebody who cares
for me passionately
with every thought and with every breath.
Someone who'll help me see things
in a different light;
all the things I detest
I will almost like.
I don't want to be tied
to anyone's strings.
I'm carefully trying to steer clear of those things.
And when I'm asleep,
I want somebody
who will put her arms around me
and kiss me tenderly.

~ Life ~

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but do not quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.


Never give up peeps! =D

Few words...

Reach for the cold - eyes stare dead - unspoken dreams.
Absence of will - no joy in life - let me go.
Guide me away - another path - another life.
In need of - Understanding - for times to come.
All of my ways - all of my dreams - so meaningless.
More affection - in my heart - than in the world.
Absence of will - absence of love - hate this world.

Heartbroken But Still Smiling

It was hard at first I must admit But Im moving on now Im over the hard bit You hurt me a lot It was a very tough time But that times gone and passed Im used to you not being mine A lot of tears were shed I cried everyday But the tears have stopped They ve all washed away Still heart broken I can still feel the ache But the pains eased up Its enough for me to take I hold my head up high Manage a slight smile Thinking of future plans Travelling for miles I may still be heartbroken But the pains made me strong The smile I posses is back Right where it belongs

:)

It's almost time to take a few steps away from the busy-ness of work and normal day-to-day life to reflect upon those people, things, experiences, and other gifts for which we are truly thankful. Life can be stressful at times and I often lament that I don't get paid nearly what I should, but I'm thankful that I have a job and one that provides me with a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. I still mourn the loss of people who've meant something to me, whether they've passed away or just grown distant, but I am thankful that I ever had them in my life at all. Lessons learned the hard way are still learned, good examples of growth. Life is never perfect, but often good, so be thankful for all the many things you have to be thankful for and spend some time this holiday thinking more about what is good in your life than what stresses you out at work or elsewhere.

Tatz the way I am...:)

From being a person of silent,calm,not getting involved in activities to a person full of vigor,curious and a person who is able to manage and conduct events that too all alone,it needed something to push myself to this extent.

Something or someone needs to be behind ME which made me go my way.

I got a beautiful n caring family and very wonderful friends who are just for me and behind me at all times.

I am not going to mention the names of my friends as my friends would know if they are there in my circle.

This I am saying it for sure ,because I meet a lot of people ,good,better,best,worse,worst fellows.

To my surprise,the persons whom I considered very good people and easy to get along turned out to be the worst of all people I have met in my life.

I am not going to pinpoint someone but I just want to let them know that i hav uttered these words to them "YOU ARE FIRED AND NEVER EVER THINK i WILL BE FOR U" hard to say but turn out to b the oth way even if i fire i ll b for U...

I love being kind not just in heart but even in the words I speak too.I could proudly and declare myself as the one who has not uttered a single or even a simple word that would have hurted anyone even little.

I dont speak words that will make someone feel why should I have a person like me in his life.

But events happening around me for the past 1.5 months make me to reconsider my stance on this.
But "THAT DOESN'T MATTER" .

I love to be the way I am now and I cant change my character for someone who does not even deserve my feet.(Sorry for this word usage but the reality is that)

I would like to offer help /assistance in whatever way I can if I can.I dont take it anyhting all for myself.I care if all get something,only then I will think of my share.

But people around?They can offer a hand when you need it badly and glare at you as if you have asked their hands for ever(cut and take it with me?) (Offering the hand I mean just a simple offering of their hands to make me get up)

So simple thing?But ???

You dont deserve me and my help guys.

But still I love to be the way I am.

Sometimes I get a doubt on myself,if I am being too kind,too soft,too giving up for other?

But still I love to be the way I am.

It wont take much time for me to start behaving as how others behave. Getting hyper-tensed like someone is not a difficut job for me.
I can be the toughest guy to handle.

Thinking that I am warning you all?? THAT DOES NOT MATTER.

I can turn my face like a "Monkey which has eaten ginger" like others.
But my parents and my friends dont like me to be like that.

Why they? Even I dont like being like that.Who will look at me if I am like that :)

Dont people know the value of a simple smile??

I think that is the most powerful thing in this world that can build empires and even bring them down.

Why dont these people understand??

I smile a lot and I love the way I smile. Is it my fault to expect others to smile a bit ?

Are they gaining something by keeping their mouth shut and looking like a Mangoose??

I pity them and thats what i can do.

I love to treat my friends in my best capable way and I dont expect the same from them. Once I consider someone my friend,they will be my friend till i live.

I dont like to show off. If I think anyone need my help,I know how to help them.I dont like to declare that I am helping them and such stuff.

This is the way I am and I wil continue to be like this only.I love the way I do work and I love the way I behave in front of girls.

Even if I have something to say that they are going wrong somewhere I know how to let them know that and I dont say it in a way that they feel bad about what they did.

This is the way I am and I love to be like this only.

If I have to show off and only then it means I am helping, then u people can "Close your rotten mouth and find your way out"

I dont entertain timepass friendship and friendship created/played just for the sake of getting something done by me.
I dont use friendship to get my job done be it personal or professional.

And I love the way I treat friendship.


But still I think,let them do whatever they want to,as they too are just a normal human being but not so cultured like me.

I have friends who will tell me if I going wrong somewhere and others need not dare to worry about the same.

Whenever someone says that we need to imnprove on something,and if they propose a better way to do it,I would like to lend my ear to their idea and not just simply shunt them down.

Thats the way I am and if they do something wrong which can be corrected,I say to them straight and face to face,no matter who they are.

If I like something,I would say I like it.

If I love someone,I would say I love them.

My friends know how much I love I said to them when they impressed me with their attitude.

I started liking/loving few people for their charactert of just able to maintain their own character,no matter what others speak about them.

I like that.

You dont need to worry what others think about you,waht others speak about you.

What matters is the fact that you like the way you are(ofcourse not causing harm to someone on your way:))

If you like romantic songs,keep liking it.Dont change because someone likes rock music and want you too like rock music.(This is just an example but in reality why people think about what other so called society think if they do intercaste or inter religious love marriage.If they think they can live their life,then where the hell these society come from.?)

Thats the way I am and I love that way.

I dont keep anything within myself and fume inside thinking about it.

Why should I ??

If I fume inside it is me who is gonna affected.Why should I make myself suffer for those craps.(Using lot of craps??,Cant help it as craps are everywhere)

I am doing this mistake as often.I expect everyone to be like me.

Laughing at what I am writing boasting of myself?

That does not matter.
My FRIENDS know how I am and who I am and I damn care about some craps.

Even I dont like boasting of myself but the reality is I am much better than someone who always finds fault on me,spy on me and act as if he is a Home Secretary.

I love the way I am not because others love this attitude of mine but because I myself love me and my attitude.

I love the way I dress
I love the way I speak
I love the way I walk
I love the way I work
I love the way I love
I love the way I treat others
I love the way I live
I love the way I laugh
I love the way I think
I love the way my FRIENDS are.

I am really not 100% good guy finding fault on others behaviours but I expect them to be atleast have some 10,10% of human values.

I am not a philosopher or a sadhu who is calm and preaching others.

Thats none of my business and I have a lot more high priority work to do than this crap.

I really love the topic "I love the way I am " and chose it to write something very close to my heart but this turned out to be a blog mainly boasting about myself and I feel bad about it???

No,I dont.Though this contents in this blog are strong,thank god I finally vented out my feelings in public.

My FRIENDS will understand me and thats what I needed and nothing more.

And I dont care what other craps think of after reading this blog.

Thanks for understanding my FRIENDS.

And thats the bottomline coz i think so and my friends too think alike.

And a small advice to all my friends and well wishers

I would like you to all to be the way you are and love the way you are.You need not change for anyone for anything.


3 Cheers
Always Wanna be the same as before ,

(Sorry again for excessive usage of the word "Crap") :)

Brace yourself...

Forget everything you think you know. ur world is a prison. As u grow weak, So too will u r bonds. Swallow hard, and let death liberate u.

Sleep n then wake up. wake up for the first in a very long time.

The light ll sting u r eyes first. It is real light, not the warning glow of your yellow sun. Dont worry, u r eyes can handle it. Rest before u stand. Look around u, n u ll see n know the diff btw real and unreal.

U ll start remember.

The realm of endless worlds, This is whr u stand. It is infinite in all manner of speaking. but do not fear it, welcome it. u r free now. u r home. u r awake. b infused with knowledge, for it is , as is all knowledge, power. the greatest power.

Death: Know tat it does not exist. Death is an earthly lie.

Time: Time is a lie too. Even space is a rather superfluors notion. There is only one real dimension in the realm of endless worlds: Power. undribled power. It is the means of transportation - the bridge between one world and another.

This is only beginning, Brace yourself.

JUST FOR YOU!!!

You Decide to be happy today, to live with what is yours - your family, your business, your job. If you can't have what you like, maybe you can like what you have.

Just for today, be kind, cheerful, agreeable, responsive, caring, and understanding.
be your best, dress your best, talk softly, look for the bright side of things.

Praise people for what they do and don't criticize them for what they cannot do.

If someone does something stupid, forgive and forget. After all, it's just for one day.

Who knows, it might turn out to be a nice day!

And Always Remember..

Somebody cares if you're happy today,
If your heart is cheerful and light.

Somebody cares if you're feeling good
And everything's going just right.

And somebody hopes that this message will show,
In a warm little heart-to-heart way..

You're thought of, remembered,
and happily wished an especially wonderful life !!!

And tht person is Me............

Thanks for your friendship

Across the Miles,
You have bought me Smile………..

You have wiped my tears by lending an ear...
Although my voice u have never heard...
You have listened carefully to my
Thoughts
My feelings
My words
And I want You to know,
That I m glad
That we have meet..
Coz my heart is
Happy deep down inside..........

And you are a treasure my friend
And that’s not a lie..
Thanks for your friendship
And thanks for being YOU..........

Ctrl, Alt, and Delete

Don't you wish when life is bad
and things just don't compute,
That all we really had to do
was stop and hit reboot?

Things would all turn out ok,
life could be so sweet
If we had those special keys
Ctrl, Alt, and Delete

Your boss is mad, your bills not paid,
your Frnds, just mute
Just stop and hit those wonderful keys
that make it all reboot

You'd like to have another job
but you fear living in the street?
You solve it all and start a new,
Ctrl, Alt, and Delete

Yeh meri life hai :)

I write ….
whatever i hav in my mind n heart.

I am thinking ….
How ironic it is to fight physically, verbally and in all other fashions with bro and sis and then missing them intensely when they are going to leave home for education, job etc or when you listen them on phone in the same tone, with same faked fights made deliberately to make you feel that they haven’t changed yet no matter how many b’days they have celebrated. And amazingly you too pose yourself as if you are ok with it rather happier than before.

I said….
well i think whatever be the situation, whatever be the confusions we are engulfed in , I believe life should be taken very lightly otherwise life will absorb us in the process and we wont we that self dat we are born with...every thing should be taken smoothly..n simple funda is that ..if we think that any crisis any conflict wont remain in our mind and green after 1 month or so its not worth wasting time on it...most of the problems are just the passing phase its just the remembrance of them that take make them seem as if they dominate a big part of our time and life ! ( to one of my friend when he seemed in stress)

I want...
People to be more humble and soft to helpers,maids,beggers,labours and other classes who they suppose to be inferior to them .I just have been to one of my friend’s pg and saw one of her pgmate scolding her maid bitterly on some petty matter. Her maid tolerated her may be because she was the source of her income but the girl did not only exhibit her bad mannerism but also displayed a poor show of what could be her upbringing and values like.

I wish...
to build a company of which founders are me and my friends ,where there is no threat of bossy boss ,no incidents of pulling somebody down . Just leg pulling,hand pulling,hair pulling,ear pulling, or kitna pull karna hai bhai padhe ja rahe ho,bailgadi pull karo jake !

I miss...
The days when I and my family used to have enough time to persue off the routine stuffs.I miss those driving,swimming in kolkatta n vizag beach,shorthand classes from dad when we all used to have great fun while learning.Those picnics,outings in monsoon weather.Now things are not same as everybody is running short of time.I miss My school,My sports team, coching friends. Most of them are not here now.Some doing job and some study and some both.Hangout after school-time,long talks-discussions-gossips after coching class outside CL among we friends were the most memorable and fun times.

I hear...
The giggles and laugh we make everyday in and out of classroom on some stupid jokes and acts.Compliments I get from friends,uncles and aunts.I hear papa, saying one time to some uncle who came to meet him “azze ye mera beta mera hero hai jst beware of him kissiko nahi chodtha“.

I wonder...
how on earth I had remained single for almost 27 years and never involved in something called relationship.Well more rightly I wonder why could no one impress me to the degree to make me drawn towards her.

I regret...
My not persuing sports after schools ,officially.

I am...
very self-esteemed and trustworthy person.

I dance...
with friends on any music...

I sing...
in bahroom,in lab ,in class, while riding ,while reading,while testing,while cooking...

I cry...
NEVER, only when I am alone even not before my family members or friends. No one ever saw me crying.

I am not...
too much ambitious who will overlook family,peace and little beautiful moments to achieve the larger-than-life aims.Then I am not the one who will do anything or everything beyond my values and principles to gain what i want.I am not a hypocrite.

I write...
because I want to see myself some years down the line how I used to be like,how nice time I had . I write because I think everytime you don’t have somebody to vent out what you feel to , whatever it is. See obviously I cant bore anybody by talking.

I confuse...
myself, am I being taken in right spirit or I was fooled.

I need...
to concentrate and find more time for my research and catch up with the latest trend I am lagging behind at.

I should...
learn to express and undustand my true feelings.At times I think I am quite reserved in appreciating things.

I finish...
off more nonsense and leg pulling than I should.

I tag...
ALL my frnds.

Book of my life

Let me watch by the fire and remember my days,
and it may be the trick of the firelight,
but the flickering pages that trouble my sight
is a book I'm afraid to write.

It's the book of my days, it's the book of my life,
and it's cut like a fruit on the blade of a knife,
and it's all there to see as the section reveals
there's some sorrow in every life.

If it reads like a puzzle, a wandering maze,
and I won't understand 'til the end of my days,
I'm still forced to remember, remember the words of my life.

There are promises broken and promises kept,
angry words that were spoken when I should have wept,
there's a chapter of secrets and words to confess,
if I lose everything that I possess.

There's a chapter on loss, and a ghost who won't die,
there's a chapter on love where the ink's never dry,
there are sentences served in a prison I built out of lies.

Though the pages are numbered, I can't see where they lead.
For the end is a mystery no one can read, in the book of my life.

There's a chapter on fathers, a chapter on sons
there are pages of conflicts that nobody won,
and the battles you lost, and your bitter defeat,
there's a page where we fail to meet.

There are tales of good fortune that couldn't be planned,
there's a chapter on god that I don't understand,
there's a promise of Heaven and Hell, but I'm damned if I see.

Though the pages are numbered, I can't see where they lead.
For the end is a mystery no one can read, in the book of my life.

Now the daylight's returning.
If one sentence is true,
all these pages are burning, and all that's left is you.

Though the pages are numbered, I can't see where they lead.
For the end is a mystery no one can read, in the book of my life.

akela

saath tha sabaka
tab bhee akela tha,
aaj akela hoo
to saath hai jimmedaariyo ka,
jinake baare me
mainne kabhee nahee socha.
aaj shoony pe khaDa hoo
aur dekh raha hoo
manjil tak pahunchane ke
kee meel ke patthar‍ .
aaj khone ko kuchh nahee hai
sirf paana hai.
ek ek kadam
apanee dam pe uThaana hai .

sach ho jaaye...

har me dafn ho jaata hai
ek din jo jee liyaa.
har shaam kahatee hai;
ki aage ek din aur hai.

jara tham ja;

aaraam karale,

lambee raat baakee hai.

dekh le ek sapana,
kya pata

kal kee subah
sach ho jaaye...

Tommorow never Dies...

Life is journey of millennia, which knows no destination, except mystery. There"s awesome silence soaring deep down until one fine day some of us realize that we are getting attracted to some beautiful stranger. And all our saved up wishes starts coming out. Our eyes looks brighter in the presence of that beautiful stranger.

We have decided that we want to spend the rest of our life with them and not knowing whether they would be spending it with us or not.

So every one of us are not lucky every time. But we should appreciate the feelings of the other person even we cant reciprocate to them in the similar manner.

"Gravity is not responsible of people to fall in love.. it just happens" and when it does happen don"t wait for the right time to express..
because right time is when your heart beats faster.. If you love someone don"t wait for tomorrow.. or for the other person to make the move..agreed "tomorrow never dies".. but also remember.. "tomorrow never comes . . . "
(Trust me, don"t be late . . .)

Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime? ? ? ?

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on. When people come into your life for a SEASON it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for reading this. By doing so you also have become a small part of my life. "Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like no one is watching."

वो बचपन के दीन.....

वो बचपन के दीन जब याद आते हैं,ये पल ये लम्हे मासूम से हो जाते हैं,
वो हलकी सी तक्रारें ,वो मीठी सी नोंक-झोंक ,
वो रोज नए बहाने बनाना, वो कल के रूठे दोस्तो को मनाना,
वो स्कूल की घंटी ,वो खेल का मैदान,
वो झील के कीनारे आम का बागान,
वो पत्थर उचालकर कच्चे आमों को गीराना,
वो दौड़ की होड़ मे दोस्तो को गीराना -उठाना,
वो सावन के झूले ,वो कोयल की कूक,
वो बारीश की रीम्झीम मे भीगना -भीगाना ,
वो बारीश के पानी से आंगन का भर जाना,
फीर कागज की कस्तीयां बनाकर पानी मे चलाना !
जाने ये अब कहॉ खो गए ,सायद अब ये कीसी ओर के हो गए
वो बचपन के दीन जब याद आते हैं,ये पल ये लम्हे मासूम से हो जाते हैं

:)

Easy is to get a place is someone’s address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone’s heart.

========and she has captured a place in my heart from the day.....even i cant remember.


Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up…

========but she is always there to help you to get up

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise…

========but she will keep your promise no matter what

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day…

========i have not seen a more loving or caring person.in short a real sweetheart

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

========i dnt think anyone will ever want to lose her

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings...

========oh yes the most loyal frnd anyone could have.......

More than words

Sometimes silence conveys emotions that words fail to ...

Silence can be a sign of consent.

Silence conveys anger.

Silence demonstrates strength.

Silence demonstrates patience.

Silence conveys determination.

Silence can mean respect.

Silence does not mean inaction

Silence may indicate forgiveness.

Silence represents tolerance.

Silence can mean confidence.

Silence is not necessarily a sign of guilt or weakness, it is in many cases lot more thought provoking and convincing than words …

OOSE BHOOL JAA

Woh jo mil gayaa tuumhe usay yaad rakh, jo nahee milaa usay bhool jaa

Woh terey naseeb kee baarishain keesee aur chhatt par baras gayee
dil-e-be khabar meri baat soon, usay bhool ja, usay bhool jaa

Main to guum thaa terey dhyaan main teri aas; terey gumaan main
sabaa keh gayee mere kaan main, merey saath aa, usay bhool jaa

Naa hee woh teri aankh thi, naa hee woh khwaab teraa khwaab thaa
Pheer kees leeye tera raaton kaa jagna, usay bhool jaa

Yeh jo raat deen kaa khel sa usay dekh us pay yaqeen ker
nahe aks koi bhi mustaqil, sar-e-aaina, usay bhool jaa

Voh jo raastein main hee rook gayaa, woh jo beech raastay say palat gayaa
Usay roknay sey kyaa haseel, usay matt buulaa usay bhool ja…usay bhool jaa.

Love's know-how

Love sounds
Familiar but profound
Everyone knows
Something about its know-how

In love the heart flies
On borrowed wings of ecstasy
On crash-landing it finds
To wallow in self-pity is easy

Nothing and nobody matters
Except for the special someone
Then the myth shatters
Desperately seeking one good reason

The investment is heavy-
A strong heart and sanity
The crash has a levy
It’s either your life or dignity

The more one knows of it
Bigger is the mystery
Before you know enough of it
It becomes a part of history

Love sounds
Familiar but profound
Everyone knows
Something about its know-how

N e v e r M i n d

never been to thy dale,
never knocked thy door,
never paused awhile,
never turned back,
never saw thy world,

never loved those eyes,
never droned a praise,
never read those tales,
never saw those streams,
never looked into it,

never heard thy voice,
never touched thy limbs,
never stood near you,
never said a word,
never slept a wink,

never sung a hymn,
never knelt where you slept,
never kept a flower,
never shed a tear,
never lived the life..
never.. without you..

never..
eh.. never mind

You're not alone, for I'm still here.....

I cannot ease your aching heart,
Nor take your pain away;
But let me stay and take your hand
And walk with you today.

I'll listen when you need to talk,
I'll wipe away your tears;
I'll share your worries when they come,
I'll help you face your fears.

I'm here and I will stand by you,
On each hill you have to climb;
So take my hand, let's face the world...
And live just one day at a time.

You're not alone, for I'm still here,
I'll go that extra mile;
And when your grief is easier,
I'll help you learn to smile!

My Share Trading Experience.

To all my friends who are into share trading, I would like to share my experience with you.

I have been trading since last three years. Initially I was just visiting sites like Moneycontrol and sort off, where I was busy searching most prolific boarders post and try to get something out of it. I managed quite well to get some good investment tips and did gud profits. Every hour when I was at home my eyes were stuck onto CNBC for market info. Each and every trading hour of day, I was mentally linked to market and after some time I realized that, how deep I have been engrossed into this.

The funny part of it was that, at times even though I dont wanted to trade , I was simply checking my portfolio day in and out where it is moving. That’s the worst phase one would like to be in.

I searched on internet for some good information forums/ sites. Also got some info about some body offering market tips for a premium. I also once subscribed to "Poweryourtrade".com. A premium service offered from Moneycontrol. After a period of time, I found all those stuff bull shit. Interestingly the Poweryourtrade service was of no use for person like me. Most of the messages were a repeat of what we see in CNBC. Infact I found MoneyControl better that PoweryourTrade. Also I got to know that the people who offer tips on chargeable basis are just bluffing. My friend got badly duped into it. I just analysed there call and came to know about there strategy. They never offer frontline stock tips. Most of there tips are for scripts you might have never heard of. When we receive the tip, interestingly you will find that the script has already run up quite a bit. And the most common thing you will find is that the scripts must be running in continuous Upper circuits, whereby you will never have a chance to buy them. Hence the call may be right but you end up without buying on the reco. If at all you may be able to buy any of these scripts, it may run down with same pace and you end up making losses. Please never subscribe to such service providers.

My best way to select script is to watch CNBC and select the best scrip for investment portfolio. Mostly the frontline stocks, which on an average give you returns of more than 30% per annum, are my best bet. And I had been benefiting from the same.

The site www.theindianstock.com Most of the recommendations made on this site are on technical analysis.TIS has an all around team of prolific boarders. Aryan alone is such a big Knowledge house, to add to it there are likes of Airbus who is dedicatedly offering Nifty views in the forum. There is the great Goodbrother (GB),who I think has done a PHD in IPO's. Every information about IPO's is available from this person. You ask him and he will be answering you all. I will never forget the great ppgupta. Guptaji is called the king of Penny Stocks. All PennyStock Investments advised by him are wonderful. I had been benefited a lot from his reco. Add to it, there are many boarders whose names if I write, the list may go long. For those who are interested in day trading, the site also offers a daily Chat, where Aryan offers day trading reco. Here one thing you have to do is just log in into the chat and keep watching. Its not just other chat to share your views. Here you need to have patience and trade as per recommendations from Aryan. Come across and you will know what I mean.

I personally recommend you to subscribe to www.theindianstocks.com. And one more thing, the site and all the valuable information you will be having is totally free. Off course there are some etiquette you need to follow, which are clearly mentioned on site. Frankly speaking , I have lots of regard for this site, and given a chance, I can go on and on writing about the likes and advantages of being a TIS ian. For the time being you can yourself visit and experience.

Happy Investing .

Sweet Darkness

When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.

When your vision has gone
no part of the world can find you.

Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes to recognize its own.

There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.

The dark will be your womb tonight.
The night will give you a horizon

further than you can see.
You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in.
Give up on all other worlds
except the one to which you belong.

Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.


~ David Whyte,(The House of Belonging)

Why Do We Lie to Those We Love?

Our romantic relationships are seldom what they seem. We all want a relationship that is built on openness, intimacy, and trust, but the truth is, our relationships do not always work that way. More often than not, our intimate relationships involve secrecy and deceit. In fact, if you want to look for deception and betrayal in your own life, the best place to start is close to home. Husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, often lie about their true feelings for each other, the feelings they have for others, and their level of commitment. Indeed, it is safe to say that people save their biggest and most serious lies for those they love.

For better or worse, our romantic relationships are full of paradoxes which we try to overlook, downplay and ignore. For the most part, this strategy works well. Until the day comes when it doesn’t, and with little warning or preparation we have to confront face-on the reality that our close relationships are not exactly what they appear to be.

It is wise to be honest ,no matter wt the other feel...atleast ur not deceiving urself.

My posts are full of lecture!Don't think too much..Smile

How people say Sorry..according to their sunsign

The way people apologise and their style of saying sorry depends a lot
on their personality and zodiac traits. No wonder Leos embarrass you
when they say sorry while Arians will actually annoy you with their
apology?..

Aries: For starters, Arians think they are so sweet,they could not have
possibly said or done things that need an apology. So in the unlikely
possibility of them actually going down their knees to apologise, it
will be a simple sorry.Nothing less, nothing more.

Taurus: They are so scared to face others when they make a mistake that
by the time they resurface to tender an apology, the damage is done. So
Taurans end up making foes out of friends because of their laxity in
apologizing.

Gemini: Geminis think they are infallible and therefore will never
really apologise for anything. But once they realize, they prefer to act
as if nothing happened, and behave normally with people who have a
problem rather than remind others of the incident by tendering an apology.

Cancer: Cancerians will make you feel sorry for demanding one when
they make a mistake. They are the legendary characters that burn hands
and slash their fingers! in order to display the quantum of their
repentance. Their repentance is dangerous.

Leo: Leos are a delightful bunch even when they are trying to make up
for their follies. They will go down their knees, buy flowers, put up
sorry posters.. do everything colorful to flatter you and make up for
their mistakes. In fact it's fun to induce them to make a mistake and let
them apologize for it.

Virgo: Virgos will first formally set aside a time and date and inform
them what they want to tell you. Then they will mentally prepare
themselves to talk out the same things. They will finally draft the
script and read out whatever they want to. In short, even their heartfelt
apologies sound like well-drafted scripts.

Libra: They are very vocal once they realize their folly. They never
ever hesitate to come clean and admit their mistakes. In fact, they will
go out of their way to convince you about how genuinely sorry they are.

Scorpio: Scorpios are formal and think that tendering an apology is
more of a formality. So instead of just saying sorry, they will send a
formal mail or send a card, whatever it takes to avoid direct
confrontation.

Sagittarius: Sagittarians don't believe in being sorry or apologizing.
For them, it is human to err and therefore saying sorry is just
redundant. Interestingly, even if others make mistakes,
they are pretty cool and don't expect much from them.

Capricorn: They can't take a simple sorry. They need
reasons,explanations, written letters and the works to get elicit an 'ok, you may go now'
phrase. They are hard to please and even harder
to appease.

Aquarius: They are sweet, genuine and innovative when they think they
are wrong and need to undo the damage.Aquarians are easy on their
mistakes and don't take too much time to do
their sorrying.

Pisces: Pisceans don't easily give in because they believe that
everything is about perspective. So if somebody thinks they made a mistake! ,
it's because they have a wonky perspective. Pisceans and apologies? No
chance!!!

keeeeeeeeeep Smiling........

MY FRIEND

"Did anyone ever tell you
How important you make others feel
Somebody out here is smiling
About love that is so real. Did anyone ever tell you
Many times, when they were sad
Your e-mail made them smile a bit
In fact it made them glad. For the time you spend sending things
And sharing whatever you find
There are no words to thank you
But somebody thinks you"re fine. Did anyone ever tell you
Just how much they love you
Well, my dearest friend
Today I am telling you. I"m glad to call you my friend!"

Self Management

You are responsible for everything that happens in your life. Learn to accept total responsibility for yourself. If you do not manage yourself, then you are letting others have control of your Life. These tips will help "you" manage "you."
Here is a list of things that might help you in self management and which will in turn lead you to the path of success: -
-) Look at every new opportunity as an exciting and new-life experience.
-) Be a professional who exhibits self-confidence and self-assurance in your potential to complete any task.
-) Agree with yourself in advance that you will have a good attitude toward the upcoming task.
-) Frequently ask, "Is what I am doing right now moving me toward my goals?"
-) Do it right the first time and you will not have to take time later to fix it.
-) Accept responsibility for your job successes and failures. Do not look for a scapegoat.
-) Do not view things you do as a "job." View all activities as a challenge.
-) Use your subconscious mind by telling it to do what you do want. Instead of telling yourself, "I can't do that very well," say, "I can do this very well."
Practice your personal beliefs. It may be helpful each morning to take 15 minutes to gather your thoughts and say a prayer.
Make a commitment to show someone a specific accomplishment on a certain date. The added urgency will help you feel motivated to have it done.
Practice self-determination, wanting to do it for yourself.Believe that you can be what you want to be.
Never criticize yourself as having a weakness. There is no such thing.
You are only talking about a present undeveloped skill or part of yourself that if you so chose, you can change.
You do not have any weakness, only untapped potential.
Be pleasant all the time-no matter what the situation.
Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
Talk to yourself. A self-talk using positive affirmation is something that is common among all great achievers. They convince themselves that they can accomplish their goals.
Create your own "motivation board" by putting up notes of things you need to do on a bulletin board or special wall space. It is an easily visible way to see what you need to work on. When an item is done, remove the note.
-) Give yourself points for completing tasks on your "to-do" list in priority order. When you reach 10 points, reward yourself.
-) Practice your personal beliefs. It may be helpful each morning to take 15 minutes to gather your thoughts and say a prayer.
-) Make a commitment to show someone a specific accomplishment on a certain date. The added urgency will help you feel motivated to have it done.
-) Practice self-determination, wanting to do it for yourself.
-) Believe that you can be what you want to be.
-) Never criticize yourself as having a weakness. There is no such thing. You are only talking about a present undeveloped skill or part of yourself that if you so chose, you can change. You do not have any weakness, only untapped potential.
-) Be pleasant all the time-no matter what the situation.
-) Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
-) Talk to yourself. A self-talk using positive affirmation is something that is common among all great achievers. They convince themselves that they can accomplish their goals.
-) Create your own "motivation board" by putting up notes of things you need to do on a bulletin board or special wall space.
It is an easily visible way to see what you need to work on. When an item is done, remove the note.
Also keep your goals listed and pictured on your board.
Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would,
Establish personal incentives and rewards to help maintain your own high enthusiasm and performance level.
Also keep your goals listed and pictured on your board.
-) Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would,
-) Establish personal incentives and rewards to help maintain your own high enthusiasm and performance level.

Heartbreak - 20 Solutions

Have you, at any point in your life, suffered a broken heart? Those waves of intense grief, emptiness, sadness, anger, confusion, heaviness and low self-esteem?

Depending on the kind of person you are and the situation, break-ups can be traumatic enough to affect your emotional and physical health.
They may say that no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way, at least initially.
Most people will tell you that you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but it seems easier said than done.

There are strategies that can lessen the pain. Here are 20 steps that can help -

1. Be aware of your real intentions -
   Do you want to move past the break-up. Or do you harbour hopes of getting back with your ex? Define your emotional goal. You can't move on until you've truly accepted that the relationship is over.
   
2. Make a clean break -
   Don't do the 'on-again-off- again' routine. It will only prolong the inevitable. Also, resist the urge to call your ex.
   How do you know if you are over your ex? That's the million-dollar question. A good indication is when you no longer want to get back together with the person. Additionally, when the thought of your ex having a relationship with someone else doesn't affect you. Although you might not necessarily be 'happy' for him/her, but if you have gotten over your ex, you won't care either way.
   
3. Don't get self-destructive -
   Getting angry (or desperate), trying to hurt yourself or someone else, drinking or taking drugs to become numb and feel better, or locking yourself up in a dark room are not going to do anything to help your situation. These things don't actually deal with the pain, they only mask it, which only prolongs the sadness.
   
4. Share your feelings -
   It could be with a friend or family member. Talking is a great way to cleanse your soul and ease your tension.
   
5. Cry it out -
   Getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help, so it's okay to cry as much as needed, irrespective of whether you are a a guy or a girl.
   
6. Give your heart time to heal -
   It takes time for sadness to go away. This depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks -- and sometimes even months.
   
7. Keep yourself busy -
   This can be difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. Just make sure you busy yourself with positive activities like doing projects around the house, going on a trip, exercising, friend-time and focusing on studies or work. Don't get self destructive and at all costs avoid excesses of any kind.
   
8. Watch a movie -
   To distract yourself, choose a comedy that has cheered you up before. Or watch one that's guaranteed to make you sob -- you might be surprised how good that makes you feel.
   
9. Take a holiday/vacation or weekend off -
   Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. It recharges your batteries. It also gives you some time to think and find closure in a different setting.
   
10. Surround yourself with friends -
    Interacting with others will help you in resuming a normal life balance. It may open up opportunities for new friendships too. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships.
    
11. Remind yourself of your good qualities -
    Often people with broken hearts blame themselves for what happened. Getting your self-esteem back on track is the key to your recovery.
    
12. Focus on yourself -
    You're going through a tough time, so do the things that make you feel good again. Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day, dance, or go shopping. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimise stress and depression.
    
13. Improve yourself -
    This is an opportunity to make a journey into self-discovery. Discover what you want from life and go after it.
    
14. Get rid of the memories -
    Do your mourning and then put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Return it to them, throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely. Get rid of anything that keeps you in the past, if it hurts.
    
15. Learn from the break-up -
    Take the positives from it, and even more importantly, learn from the negatives. There's nothing worse than dragging your negative habits along with you to future relationships, because you'll just end up with the same result until you learn from your mistakes.
    
16. Get out -
    Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling depressed. Go for a cup of coffee or a long walk.
    
17. Move on -
    People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behaviour is normal in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. Remember that the end is just the beginning. Visualise your future, block out the past. Pick up the pieces and go after the kind of life and relationship you deserve.
    
18. Don't punish your next partner -
    Judge future relationships on their own merits. Don't let paranoia from the past enter the present. If you live in the past too much, you aren't ready to be in another relationship yet. Learn to trust again. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest.
    
19. Consider getting professional help -
    Sometimes the sadness is so deep -- or lasts so long -- that one may need extra support. For a person who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a psychologist or counsellor or psychiatrist can be very helpful.
    
20. Take charge -
    Find the courage to pull yourself out of this rut. Take charge of yourself and you will find that there actually is life after 'What's-His- Name' or 'What's-Her- Name'! You just need to make the decision so you can move on.

Take tiny steps each day and you will be amazed that you are starting to feel better. Lean on your friends and family, and remember, time will heal all wounds

Truth about Failure -

• Failure doesn't mean you are a failure...
  --- it does mean you haven't succeeded yet.
• Failure doesn't mean you have accomplished nothing...
  --- it does mean you have learned something.
• Failure doesn't mean you have been a fool...
  --- it does mean you had a lot of faith.
• Failure doesn't mean you have been disgraced...
  --- it does mean you were willing to try.
• Failure doesn't mean you don't have it...
  --- it does mean you have to do something in a different way.
• Failure doesn't mean you are inferior...
  --- it does mean you are not perfect.
• Failure doesn't mean you've wasted your life...
  --- it does mean you've got a reason to start afresh.
• Failure doesn't mean you should give up...
  --- it does mean you should try harder.
• Failure doesn't mean you'll never make it...
  --- it does mean it will take a little longer.

Modern Truths & Sayings -

Modern Truths & Sayings -

• Whenever I find the key to success --- someone changes the lock.
• To Err is human --- to forgive is not a COMPANY policy.
• The road to success --- is always under construction.
• Alcohol doesn't solve any problems --- if you think again, neither does Milk.
• In order to get a Loan --- you first need to prove that you don't need it.
• All the desirable things in life are either illegal, expensive or fattening.
• Since Light travels faster than Sound --- people appear brighter before you hear them speak.
• Everyone has a scheme of getting rich --- which never works.
• If at first you don't succeed --- Destroy all evidence that you ever tried.
• You can never determine which side of the bread to butter. If it falls down --- it will always land on the buttered side.
• Anything dropped on the floor will roll over to the most inaccessible corner.
• 42.7% of all statistics is made on the spot.
• As soon as you mention something --- if it is good, it is taken --- If it is bad, it happens.
• He who has the gold, makes the rules ---- Murphy's golden rule.
• If you come early, the bus is late. If you come late --- the bus is still late.
• Once you have bought something --- you will find the same item being sold somewhere else at a cheaper rate.
• When in a queue --- the other line always moves faster and the person in front of you will always have the most complex of transactions.
• If you have paper, you don't have a pen --- If you have a pen, you don't have paper --- If you have both, no one calls.
• Especially for Students -
  If you have bunked the class, the professor has taken attendance.
• You will pick up maximum wrong numbers when on roaming.
• All buses are crowded.
  Corollary --- buses in opposite direction always go empty.
• The door bell or your mobile will always ring --- when you are in the bathroom.
• After a long wait for bus no.20, two 20 number buses will always pull in together and the bus which you get in will be crowded than the other.
• If your exam is tomorrow --- there will be a power cut tonight.
• The last person to be fired or quit is responsible for all the errors --- until another person is fired or quits.
• Irrespective of the direction of the wind --- the $moke from the c!garette will always tend to go to the non-$moker