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"There's a girl in my mirror crying tonight, and there's nothing I can say to make her feel all right..."
I'm happy bcoz u r hurting dear, and though it makes me blue
I'm happy bcoz the one u love is not in love with you
I'm happy bcoz he's treating u jst like i used to do
I'm so happy that u r hurting just like me
Im happy bcoz like me u r always lonesome
You're sentimental, always feeling blue
Just like me u hav lost your one and only
You love him the way that I love you
I'm happy bcoz u r hurting dear, and though it breaks my heart
I'm happy that by now I guess you learn u r not so smart
I'm laughing bcoz u r crying dear, and though it shouldn't be
I'm so happy that u r hurting just like me
Im happy bcoz like me you're always lonesome
You're sentimental, always feeling blue
Just like me u hav lost your one and only
You love him the way that I love you
I'm laughing bcoz u r crying dear, and though it shouldn't be
I'm so happy that u r hurting just like me
"A great love? It's when you shed tears for him but still you care for him. It's when he ignored you but you still long for him. It's when he starts loving another, and yet you manage a smile and find the courage to say "I'm happy for you."
Tuesday, 22 January 2008
Wednesday, 16 January 2008
setting priority in life...
Without priorities life can become a jumbled mess lacking in direction. Priorities are the driving force that keeps us on task, moving toward our goals, and leading a satisfying and productive life. But in order to live your life according to priorities, you must first learn what your priorities are, how to set them, and how to keep them.
Priorities are a personal matter meaning that no two people's priorities will be the same. You might want to be promoted at work whereas a coworker might be interested in running a marathon. Another coworker might be saving to start a home-based business so that they can better raise their family. The bottom line is this: Individual priorities will be as varied as the individual. Don't try to compare yours to others, it just won't add up.
To set priorities, you must first thing of the things that are most important to you. A good way to do this is to imagine looking back at your life 20 years from now. Which accomplishments would have been the most important to you? Which ones would you view as a waste of time? Focus on the tasks and accomplishments that seem to be the most important. These are your priorities in life.
Now that you know what your priorities are, you need to set goals with your priorities in mind. If raising your family is your priority, working toward that promotion that will keep you in the office longer will hardly be a worthy goal. Instead, focus on goals that will give you more time with your family. Maybe switching to a higher paying job with fewer hours would be more in line with your priority of putting family first.
When you set your priorities and goals, be sure to write them down and keep them in a safe place so that you can refer to them often. Analyze your actions to see whether they are in line with both. If they are not, make adjustments where needed. For example: Let's say that you are career driven and want to be highly successful at a young age. If you notice that you are in a dead-end job where you have reached the ceiling of opportunity, staying in this job would hardly be in line with your priority of becoming successful. Switching to a fast-paced, upwardly mobile company where you can get the recognition that you deserve might be your best bet.
Keep in mind that your goals and priorities are bound to change throughout your life. The birth of a baby or a debilitating illness can dramatically change your life and your outlook on what is important. It is during these times that you will need to re-evaluate your priorities and change them accordingly. Sometimes this might mean a subtle shift, other times you might need to completely overhaul your priorities and goals. But no matter what changes may come your way, be sure to stay true to yourself and to your dreams.
Priorities are a personal matter meaning that no two people's priorities will be the same. You might want to be promoted at work whereas a coworker might be interested in running a marathon. Another coworker might be saving to start a home-based business so that they can better raise their family. The bottom line is this: Individual priorities will be as varied as the individual. Don't try to compare yours to others, it just won't add up.
To set priorities, you must first thing of the things that are most important to you. A good way to do this is to imagine looking back at your life 20 years from now. Which accomplishments would have been the most important to you? Which ones would you view as a waste of time? Focus on the tasks and accomplishments that seem to be the most important. These are your priorities in life.
Now that you know what your priorities are, you need to set goals with your priorities in mind. If raising your family is your priority, working toward that promotion that will keep you in the office longer will hardly be a worthy goal. Instead, focus on goals that will give you more time with your family. Maybe switching to a higher paying job with fewer hours would be more in line with your priority of putting family first.
When you set your priorities and goals, be sure to write them down and keep them in a safe place so that you can refer to them often. Analyze your actions to see whether they are in line with both. If they are not, make adjustments where needed. For example: Let's say that you are career driven and want to be highly successful at a young age. If you notice that you are in a dead-end job where you have reached the ceiling of opportunity, staying in this job would hardly be in line with your priority of becoming successful. Switching to a fast-paced, upwardly mobile company where you can get the recognition that you deserve might be your best bet.
Keep in mind that your goals and priorities are bound to change throughout your life. The birth of a baby or a debilitating illness can dramatically change your life and your outlook on what is important. It is during these times that you will need to re-evaluate your priorities and change them accordingly. Sometimes this might mean a subtle shift, other times you might need to completely overhaul your priorities and goals. But no matter what changes may come your way, be sure to stay true to yourself and to your dreams.
The Best Moments In Life
1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.
3. Enjoying a ride down the Country side.
4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy
towel.
7. Passing your final exams with good grades.
8. Being part of an interesting conversation.
9. Finding some money in some old pants.
10. Laughing at yourself.
11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
12. Laughing without a reason.
13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say something good about you.
14. Watching the sunset.
15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in
your
life.
16. Receiving or giving your first kiss.
17. Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special"
someone.
18. Having a great time with your friends.
19. Seeing the one you love happy.
20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her
perfume.
21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"
True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and come in
the bad times.....without calling."
2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.
3. Enjoying a ride down the Country side.
4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy
towel.
7. Passing your final exams with good grades.
8. Being part of an interesting conversation.
9. Finding some money in some old pants.
10. Laughing at yourself.
11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
12. Laughing without a reason.
13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say something good about you.
14. Watching the sunset.
15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in
your
life.
16. Receiving or giving your first kiss.
17. Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special"
someone.
18. Having a great time with your friends.
19. Seeing the one you love happy.
20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her
perfume.
21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"
True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and come in
the bad times.....without calling."
Get Serious with Life and Life will get serious with you!
Alot of things are easy to 'think', easy to 'write' and easy to 'say' because they are FREE! Putting into action.,you will need to pay and may not necessarily be money. It can make up of time, energy, sacrifice, commitment and many other stuffs to get what YOU WANT in life. Whatever you are doing now, is it going towards or helping you to achieve what you desire? Or maybe you are not able to see it yet but do you have the FAITH to keep yourself going?
Faith is the ability to see the invisible. Its about having to move forward despite challenges or obstacles. You must be able to see the outcome and follow through with all your heart and soul. Believing in oneself is more importantly than any other thing in this planet. Look fot the Hero that lies in you and unleash it. One life, One time and only This very time in this planet. Yes, we may come back into this planet after death but not in this form anymore. Maybe an animal, a lady, a plant etc. So whats stopping you now? NOTHING! This life, play full out 100% and live each day like its your last. Get serious with Life and life will get serious with you! Nothing is gonna to stop us! Lets charge...
Faith is the ability to see the invisible. Its about having to move forward despite challenges or obstacles. You must be able to see the outcome and follow through with all your heart and soul. Believing in oneself is more importantly than any other thing in this planet. Look fot the Hero that lies in you and unleash it. One life, One time and only This very time in this planet. Yes, we may come back into this planet after death but not in this form anymore. Maybe an animal, a lady, a plant etc. So whats stopping you now? NOTHING! This life, play full out 100% and live each day like its your last. Get serious with Life and life will get serious with you! Nothing is gonna to stop us! Lets charge...
Thursday, 3 January 2008
Breaking the Rules!!!
Rules are part of life, from an early age onwards our lives are shaped by rules at home, at nursery, at school and eventually at work. There are rules in our society, rules of the road, social etiquette and so on. Importantly there is also another kind of rule that effects our lives and these are the ones we create ourselves which can therefore be considered as self-imposed. These rules are often connected to our values although that connection can get lost over time as circumstances change. They often start as repeated behaviours that then become habits and eventually become rules we live by. Some of these self imposed rules serve us well but some don’t and can get in the way of our progress. They may also present barriers not just to individual change but also to change in teams or indeed whole organisations.
Let me give you examples from my own life. I have a very physical side to my ‘nature’ and this forms one of my core values. Because of this I do three forms of vigorous exercise each week (swimming, gym or canoeing for example). This has become a habit and so much so that now it is one of my ‘unwritten rules’ for how I choose to spend part of my time. Even when I’m busy and even if I am not keeping up with work I still follow this self imposed rule! On balance though I would say that this rule generally serves me well even though there is the odd time when it doesn’t! In contrast however I have another self imposed rule that is about meal times.
If you are noticing any ‘rules’ that don’t serve you then you may decide right now to ‘break them’. Doing this is a simple matter of having permission. Think of other rules in your life when on occasion you may ask someone for permission to break them, for example because of special circumstances you may ask to be excused from a rule about starting time at work or about wearing uniforms etc. In this way your self imposed rules are no different except that rather than asking someone else for permission you have to ask yourself to gain your own permission to break them – it’s that simple. Think of all the aspects of life where self imposed rules could be relevant. For example leaving work late because we have to get everything done before we can go home, or being last out of the office to set an example, or always having Sunday lunch with family, going on holiday with friends or family, always going away/ staying home for festivals, cleaning the car every Saturday morning, browsing, wearing certain clothes, behaving in certain ways etc etc. It is perhaps interesting to note how many self imposed rules link to days, fries on Fridays, weekly shop on Saturdays, coffee first thing in the morning, roast dinner on Sunday. These rules can serve a purpose of creating order or helping to plan our lives but they can also become stifling. Too many rules applied too rigidly can make us stiff and inflexible. We may even hear people acknowledge these rules in their language when they make statements like “As a rule I don’t eat meat” or “As a rule of thumb I open the post and have a coffee before seeing anyone”. In hostel I sometimes notice people talking about how routine or mundane their lives have become. On closer examination they quickly discover how much of this ‘routine’ is self imposed and how things can easily become fresh, spontaneous and more exciting by simply giving themselves permission to break some rules.
At work we can apply self imposed rules to ‘how we do something’ which on occasions can hinder more than help, particularly when others want to do something for us or when we want to delegate. Perhaps a colleague does a job for us out of kindness but doesn’t do it the same way we would. “Thanks very much but I would have done it this way” or “I know you are trying to help but that’s not how I do it “or “just leave it to me I’ll do it my way”. When self-imposed rules get in the way like this they can effect relationships and can make delegation difficult. “I’ll do it myself because it’s quicker and I know it will get done the way I want it”. The self imposed rules we live by can sometimes reach a point of perfectionism where our rules dictate often arbitrary and incredibly high standards for doing something that means we may take ages to finish it or even never complete it at all! This can result in having a back log of many unfinished projects either at work or at home or both! (and heaven help anyone who tries to help). All we need do is give ourselves permission to lower our ‘perfect’ standards slightly (who will notice anyway?). What would you have done by now if you didn’t have to do it perfectly? Sometimes self-created rules for either individuals or teams can stand in the way of change or creativity, how often have you heard people say “But, we’ve always done it that way!”
Some procedures at work can be handed down over time (the person who created the ‘procedure’ is now long gone but their rule lives on!) Sometimes the procedures don’t get questioned or if someone does question them there is resistance. I came across a great example of this in a financial firm. Way back in time before word processors and in the days of type writers the office manager had set extra large margins for letters to allow sufficient spaces because of a quirk in the carriage return of her type writer. Incredibly thirty years on the margin size had stayed the same because the unwritten rule (In spite of it wasting paper!) had been passed on without question.
Breaking rules is perhaps something that seems alien to many of us which is probably how it needs to be to live in a safe and stable environment. However our self-imposed rules are altogether a different matter and breaking these rules can be the key to a more spontaneous, exciting and fulfilling life. I have just realised that as a rule I always write these tips on a Thursday ….!
Enjoy breaking the rules...:)
Let me give you examples from my own life. I have a very physical side to my ‘nature’ and this forms one of my core values. Because of this I do three forms of vigorous exercise each week (swimming, gym or canoeing for example). This has become a habit and so much so that now it is one of my ‘unwritten rules’ for how I choose to spend part of my time. Even when I’m busy and even if I am not keeping up with work I still follow this self imposed rule! On balance though I would say that this rule generally serves me well even though there is the odd time when it doesn’t! In contrast however I have another self imposed rule that is about meal times.
If you are noticing any ‘rules’ that don’t serve you then you may decide right now to ‘break them’. Doing this is a simple matter of having permission. Think of other rules in your life when on occasion you may ask someone for permission to break them, for example because of special circumstances you may ask to be excused from a rule about starting time at work or about wearing uniforms etc. In this way your self imposed rules are no different except that rather than asking someone else for permission you have to ask yourself to gain your own permission to break them – it’s that simple. Think of all the aspects of life where self imposed rules could be relevant. For example leaving work late because we have to get everything done before we can go home, or being last out of the office to set an example, or always having Sunday lunch with family, going on holiday with friends or family, always going away/ staying home for festivals, cleaning the car every Saturday morning, browsing, wearing certain clothes, behaving in certain ways etc etc. It is perhaps interesting to note how many self imposed rules link to days, fries on Fridays, weekly shop on Saturdays, coffee first thing in the morning, roast dinner on Sunday. These rules can serve a purpose of creating order or helping to plan our lives but they can also become stifling. Too many rules applied too rigidly can make us stiff and inflexible. We may even hear people acknowledge these rules in their language when they make statements like “As a rule I don’t eat meat” or “As a rule of thumb I open the post and have a coffee before seeing anyone”. In hostel I sometimes notice people talking about how routine or mundane their lives have become. On closer examination they quickly discover how much of this ‘routine’ is self imposed and how things can easily become fresh, spontaneous and more exciting by simply giving themselves permission to break some rules.
At work we can apply self imposed rules to ‘how we do something’ which on occasions can hinder more than help, particularly when others want to do something for us or when we want to delegate. Perhaps a colleague does a job for us out of kindness but doesn’t do it the same way we would. “Thanks very much but I would have done it this way” or “I know you are trying to help but that’s not how I do it “or “just leave it to me I’ll do it my way”. When self-imposed rules get in the way like this they can effect relationships and can make delegation difficult. “I’ll do it myself because it’s quicker and I know it will get done the way I want it”. The self imposed rules we live by can sometimes reach a point of perfectionism where our rules dictate often arbitrary and incredibly high standards for doing something that means we may take ages to finish it or even never complete it at all! This can result in having a back log of many unfinished projects either at work or at home or both! (and heaven help anyone who tries to help). All we need do is give ourselves permission to lower our ‘perfect’ standards slightly (who will notice anyway?). What would you have done by now if you didn’t have to do it perfectly? Sometimes self-created rules for either individuals or teams can stand in the way of change or creativity, how often have you heard people say “But, we’ve always done it that way!”
Some procedures at work can be handed down over time (the person who created the ‘procedure’ is now long gone but their rule lives on!) Sometimes the procedures don’t get questioned or if someone does question them there is resistance. I came across a great example of this in a financial firm. Way back in time before word processors and in the days of type writers the office manager had set extra large margins for letters to allow sufficient spaces because of a quirk in the carriage return of her type writer. Incredibly thirty years on the margin size had stayed the same because the unwritten rule (In spite of it wasting paper!) had been passed on without question.
Breaking rules is perhaps something that seems alien to many of us which is probably how it needs to be to live in a safe and stable environment. However our self-imposed rules are altogether a different matter and breaking these rules can be the key to a more spontaneous, exciting and fulfilling life. I have just realised that as a rule I always write these tips on a Thursday ….!
Enjoy breaking the rules...:)
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