Self Management

You are responsible for everything that happens in your life. Learn to accept total responsibility for yourself. If you do not manage yourself, then you are letting others have control of your Life. These tips will help "you" manage "you."
Here is a list of things that might help you in self management and which will in turn lead you to the path of success: -
-) Look at every new opportunity as an exciting and new-life experience.
-) Be a professional who exhibits self-confidence and self-assurance in your potential to complete any task.
-) Agree with yourself in advance that you will have a good attitude toward the upcoming task.
-) Frequently ask, "Is what I am doing right now moving me toward my goals?"
-) Do it right the first time and you will not have to take time later to fix it.
-) Accept responsibility for your job successes and failures. Do not look for a scapegoat.
-) Do not view things you do as a "job." View all activities as a challenge.
-) Use your subconscious mind by telling it to do what you do want. Instead of telling yourself, "I can't do that very well," say, "I can do this very well."
Practice your personal beliefs. It may be helpful each morning to take 15 minutes to gather your thoughts and say a prayer.
Make a commitment to show someone a specific accomplishment on a certain date. The added urgency will help you feel motivated to have it done.
Practice self-determination, wanting to do it for yourself.Believe that you can be what you want to be.
Never criticize yourself as having a weakness. There is no such thing.
You are only talking about a present undeveloped skill or part of yourself that if you so chose, you can change.
You do not have any weakness, only untapped potential.
Be pleasant all the time-no matter what the situation.
Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
Talk to yourself. A self-talk using positive affirmation is something that is common among all great achievers. They convince themselves that they can accomplish their goals.
Create your own "motivation board" by putting up notes of things you need to do on a bulletin board or special wall space. It is an easily visible way to see what you need to work on. When an item is done, remove the note.
-) Give yourself points for completing tasks on your "to-do" list in priority order. When you reach 10 points, reward yourself.
-) Practice your personal beliefs. It may be helpful each morning to take 15 minutes to gather your thoughts and say a prayer.
-) Make a commitment to show someone a specific accomplishment on a certain date. The added urgency will help you feel motivated to have it done.
-) Practice self-determination, wanting to do it for yourself.
-) Believe that you can be what you want to be.
-) Never criticize yourself as having a weakness. There is no such thing. You are only talking about a present undeveloped skill or part of yourself that if you so chose, you can change. You do not have any weakness, only untapped potential.
-) Be pleasant all the time-no matter what the situation.
-) Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
-) Talk to yourself. A self-talk using positive affirmation is something that is common among all great achievers. They convince themselves that they can accomplish their goals.
-) Create your own "motivation board" by putting up notes of things you need to do on a bulletin board or special wall space.
It is an easily visible way to see what you need to work on. When an item is done, remove the note.
Also keep your goals listed and pictured on your board.
Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would,
Establish personal incentives and rewards to help maintain your own high enthusiasm and performance level.
Also keep your goals listed and pictured on your board.
-) Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would,
-) Establish personal incentives and rewards to help maintain your own high enthusiasm and performance level.

Heartbreak - 20 Solutions

Have you, at any point in your life, suffered a broken heart? Those waves of intense grief, emptiness, sadness, anger, confusion, heaviness and low self-esteem?

Depending on the kind of person you are and the situation, break-ups can be traumatic enough to affect your emotional and physical health.
They may say that no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way, at least initially.
Most people will tell you that you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but it seems easier said than done.

There are strategies that can lessen the pain. Here are 20 steps that can help -

1. Be aware of your real intentions -
   Do you want to move past the break-up. Or do you harbour hopes of getting back with your ex? Define your emotional goal. You can't move on until you've truly accepted that the relationship is over.
   
2. Make a clean break -
   Don't do the 'on-again-off- again' routine. It will only prolong the inevitable. Also, resist the urge to call your ex.
   How do you know if you are over your ex? That's the million-dollar question. A good indication is when you no longer want to get back together with the person. Additionally, when the thought of your ex having a relationship with someone else doesn't affect you. Although you might not necessarily be 'happy' for him/her, but if you have gotten over your ex, you won't care either way.
   
3. Don't get self-destructive -
   Getting angry (or desperate), trying to hurt yourself or someone else, drinking or taking drugs to become numb and feel better, or locking yourself up in a dark room are not going to do anything to help your situation. These things don't actually deal with the pain, they only mask it, which only prolongs the sadness.
   
4. Share your feelings -
   It could be with a friend or family member. Talking is a great way to cleanse your soul and ease your tension.
   
5. Cry it out -
   Getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help, so it's okay to cry as much as needed, irrespective of whether you are a a guy or a girl.
   
6. Give your heart time to heal -
   It takes time for sadness to go away. This depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks -- and sometimes even months.
   
7. Keep yourself busy -
   This can be difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. Just make sure you busy yourself with positive activities like doing projects around the house, going on a trip, exercising, friend-time and focusing on studies or work. Don't get self destructive and at all costs avoid excesses of any kind.
   
8. Watch a movie -
   To distract yourself, choose a comedy that has cheered you up before. Or watch one that's guaranteed to make you sob -- you might be surprised how good that makes you feel.
   
9. Take a holiday/vacation or weekend off -
   Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. It recharges your batteries. It also gives you some time to think and find closure in a different setting.
   
10. Surround yourself with friends -
    Interacting with others will help you in resuming a normal life balance. It may open up opportunities for new friendships too. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships.
    
11. Remind yourself of your good qualities -
    Often people with broken hearts blame themselves for what happened. Getting your self-esteem back on track is the key to your recovery.
    
12. Focus on yourself -
    You're going through a tough time, so do the things that make you feel good again. Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day, dance, or go shopping. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimise stress and depression.
    
13. Improve yourself -
    This is an opportunity to make a journey into self-discovery. Discover what you want from life and go after it.
    
14. Get rid of the memories -
    Do your mourning and then put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Return it to them, throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely. Get rid of anything that keeps you in the past, if it hurts.
    
15. Learn from the break-up -
    Take the positives from it, and even more importantly, learn from the negatives. There's nothing worse than dragging your negative habits along with you to future relationships, because you'll just end up with the same result until you learn from your mistakes.
    
16. Get out -
    Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling depressed. Go for a cup of coffee or a long walk.
    
17. Move on -
    People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behaviour is normal in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. Remember that the end is just the beginning. Visualise your future, block out the past. Pick up the pieces and go after the kind of life and relationship you deserve.
    
18. Don't punish your next partner -
    Judge future relationships on their own merits. Don't let paranoia from the past enter the present. If you live in the past too much, you aren't ready to be in another relationship yet. Learn to trust again. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest.
    
19. Consider getting professional help -
    Sometimes the sadness is so deep -- or lasts so long -- that one may need extra support. For a person who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a psychologist or counsellor or psychiatrist can be very helpful.
    
20. Take charge -
    Find the courage to pull yourself out of this rut. Take charge of yourself and you will find that there actually is life after 'What's-His- Name' or 'What's-Her- Name'! You just need to make the decision so you can move on.

Take tiny steps each day and you will be amazed that you are starting to feel better. Lean on your friends and family, and remember, time will heal all wounds

Truth about Failure -

• Failure doesn't mean you are a failure...
  --- it does mean you haven't succeeded yet.
• Failure doesn't mean you have accomplished nothing...
  --- it does mean you have learned something.
• Failure doesn't mean you have been a fool...
  --- it does mean you had a lot of faith.
• Failure doesn't mean you have been disgraced...
  --- it does mean you were willing to try.
• Failure doesn't mean you don't have it...
  --- it does mean you have to do something in a different way.
• Failure doesn't mean you are inferior...
  --- it does mean you are not perfect.
• Failure doesn't mean you've wasted your life...
  --- it does mean you've got a reason to start afresh.
• Failure doesn't mean you should give up...
  --- it does mean you should try harder.
• Failure doesn't mean you'll never make it...
  --- it does mean it will take a little longer.

Modern Truths & Sayings -

Modern Truths & Sayings -

• Whenever I find the key to success --- someone changes the lock.
• To Err is human --- to forgive is not a COMPANY policy.
• The road to success --- is always under construction.
• Alcohol doesn't solve any problems --- if you think again, neither does Milk.
• In order to get a Loan --- you first need to prove that you don't need it.
• All the desirable things in life are either illegal, expensive or fattening.
• Since Light travels faster than Sound --- people appear brighter before you hear them speak.
• Everyone has a scheme of getting rich --- which never works.
• If at first you don't succeed --- Destroy all evidence that you ever tried.
• You can never determine which side of the bread to butter. If it falls down --- it will always land on the buttered side.
• Anything dropped on the floor will roll over to the most inaccessible corner.
• 42.7% of all statistics is made on the spot.
• As soon as you mention something --- if it is good, it is taken --- If it is bad, it happens.
• He who has the gold, makes the rules ---- Murphy's golden rule.
• If you come early, the bus is late. If you come late --- the bus is still late.
• Once you have bought something --- you will find the same item being sold somewhere else at a cheaper rate.
• When in a queue --- the other line always moves faster and the person in front of you will always have the most complex of transactions.
• If you have paper, you don't have a pen --- If you have a pen, you don't have paper --- If you have both, no one calls.
• Especially for Students -
  If you have bunked the class, the professor has taken attendance.
• You will pick up maximum wrong numbers when on roaming.
• All buses are crowded.
  Corollary --- buses in opposite direction always go empty.
• The door bell or your mobile will always ring --- when you are in the bathroom.
• After a long wait for bus no.20, two 20 number buses will always pull in together and the bus which you get in will be crowded than the other.
• If your exam is tomorrow --- there will be a power cut tonight.
• The last person to be fired or quit is responsible for all the errors --- until another person is fired or quits.
• Irrespective of the direction of the wind --- the $moke from the c!garette will always tend to go to the non-$moker

a lost love

Long days will pass and years will go by
And the love I have for you will never die
Time will pass and memories will stay
Its hard to stop loving you as you're in my mind every day
I remember always your smile
To share the times you gave your love and care
Always thoughtful, always kind
These are the memories that will stay in my mind
They say that hearts don't really break
But that's not really true
The time I have spent alone in these past few years
Has broke my heart in two
How sweet sounds death to a broken heart
No longer in my life you share,
And how the future will never be
As I will turn and you won't be there
But deep in my heart you will always stay

Life toh chalegi , chalti hi rahegi !

kuch mann main ho ya na ho,
kavita bane na bane,
khushi mile naa mile,
life to chalegi , chalti hi rahegi !!

pyar mile naa mile,
pyar ke badle zeher mile na mile,
kyon kisi ka dard tum kabhi samjhoge,
life to chalegi , chalti hi rahegi !!

thoda aur bhatak le,
thodi aur mehnat kar le,
mar jaayen yunhi karte karte,
yeh to naseeb hai shayad pyar hi sahi,
life to chalegi , chalti hi rahegi !

Guzarish bas itni ki apni muskaan,
aur us muskaan ke pichhe ke shaitan,
ko apne paas hi rakho,
thoda mujhe bhi chain se jee lene do,
thoda aage badh jaane do,
life to chalegi , chalti hi rahegi !!

THE BAD THING FOR GOOD…

The following poem describes the mental state of the youth when betrayed by his own lady love…one should be calm & never lose the focus on life…

You broke my heart
And played with my sentiments
You had a great start
With great ideas & developments
That’s the way I think…
But my heart really sinks,
When I think of it in another way –
I understand my mistake & start running away.
It will take time to settle
This feeling according to my will.
It’s no use of being friends,
Cause in no time it shall end.
I have made up my mind –
To Work hard & be kind!!!

Unseen Friends

We sit and we type, and we stare at our screens.
We all have to wonder, what this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam, through the rooms in a maze,
Looking for something or someone, as we with in a daze.
We chat with each other, we type all our woes
Small groups we do form, and gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody, to type out our name.
We want recognition, but it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs, and sometimes flirt.
In PM’s we chat deeply, and reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships - but - how, we don’t know
But some of these friendships, will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen that we can be so bold
Telling our secrets, that have never been told.
Why is it we share the thought in our mind
With those we can’t see, as though we were blind.
The answer is simple, it is as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems, and need someone to tell.
We can’t tell real people, but tell someone we must,
So we turn to the computer, and to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy, the truth still remains
They are Friends Without Faces, and odd little names.

I'm tired

Seriously, I'm tired. Tired of the way you accuse me for hellish of no reasons, tired of waiting, tired of leaving message on your answering machine, tired of trying. Tired of the scenes so frequently replayed in my mind. Tired of seeing hypocrites, Tired of knowing that the truth hurts. What is the use?

It's not fatigue. It's not metal. Nor is it physical. It's emotional and psychological. Why did you have to leave? Why did you have to go so far away that I would never be able to see you again?
yaaa i can undestand its part of life v hav to keep on going. Good friend is hard to come by,
Wish you a great life ahead.

Nothing

Time does not wait for u or me, days pass years pass,
u miss ur best ones, u move away from ur close ones,
ur life changes, ur friends change, people around change,
but ur heart has those precious moments attached in it whether u like it or not,
it is that which makes u happy at sad times & sad at happier times,
ur heart has those moments in that corner where no one can see wat it is,
when others ask what happened u just smile n say
“NOTHING”

Confession of a broken heart

I am just wondering if u miss me the way i miss you now...
Wondering if you think of me the way i think of you...
i hurt you...and i guess i am just facing this day for my errors
Never knew till this day how much i loved you...
My Childishness has cost me today to loose you...
and i can never forgive myself for this day and for what i did to you...
there are days and times when i sit in a corner and tears roll down my cheeks...
i wish they seize...
but its not in my control...
i cant stop these tears...
every single drop of tear waits for your hand to wipe them...and they dry up in dissapointment...

untruth...lies and many actions that have no reason...commited...
but deep down...there was really the heart that loved you and misses you truly...Wish you would come back..

Broken marriages, relationships.. Are we going stale?

Broken marriages, relations, relationships, what we see in our day to day life… That is what prompted me to write this. I’m not married. You may be wondering how a bachelor can write about married life and @least some of you will be thinking “How can he?” or “It’s easy to say and difficult to bring into practice. Well I admit I’m not an authority to make any comment. But I take the liberty of being a prospective husband (I’m already a candidate… Parents have already started searching) to make an attempt on sharing my views, opinion and perception.

Well the average lifespan of a person is calculated around 60 – 65 years. Normally people get married between 24 and 30. That means marriage is an important decision based on which 2/3rd of our life is gonna depend upon. But I doubt if this is being handled in a proper manner. Before marriage, bachelors (both men and women) have the freedom of being their own. They only have to consider their likes, dislikes, lifestyle and everything. The day they gets married, it is this situation which is being changed. They also need to consider the likes and dislikes of another person also. Some people find it very hard to face this reality. They feel it’s their freedom that is being lost. I earlier days our families used to have more members in joint family and all, and the sharing mentality was developed automatically in an individual when he/she is being brought up. But now, the nuclear families where there is only one or two kids, with parents and grand parents busy to the core, kids are taught to be selfish and materialistic. They only think of them. Consideration for others is something which is lacking. They used to get anything and everything they wish to have in life. Their parents could afford it. They expect the same to happen in a married life. They expect their spouse to be the way they want. But they never try to be the way their spouse want them to be. This is a kind of situation we software professionals refer as deadlock.(Acc to Wikipedia: A deadlock is a situation wherein two or more competing actions are waiting for the other to finish, and thus neither ever does.) A deadlock in a wedlock is never feasible to happen to anyone. But I think 80% of the failures in marriage start from this deadlock. Husband may be modern and want his wife to be so. And the wife who is born and brought up in a traditional environment could never rise to her husband’s dreams. Things will be worse if she starts finding fault in her husband for being so modern. In fact every marriages should be a give and take relation. Consider your spouse a person like you with dreams, ambitions, likes, dislikes, beliefs, friends, parents, relatives and everything that you have got. Respect the other person as an individual. Set aside your egos and false prestige. They will only help to make things worse. In a give and take relationship, let it be in the order is said.. Give and then try to take. Give love and respect. And let the love be unconditional. When u gives something expecting something in return, its business, a kind of barter system. Don’t turn your life into a business like this. Let your love (not just in case of marriage alone) be unconditional. In a married life, it is very important to build up an emotional bonding between the partners. It’s a time consuming process too. Two different persons, born and brought up in 2 different situations, who have different set of dreams, ambitions, tastes, likes and dislikes, are starting a family. They need to build up a dream of their own, a life of their own. It’s quite natural to have difference in opinion, and clashes. But always try to understand any such situation is not the end of life. It’s just a bend in the road, and definitely not the end of the road. Actually patience, love, care and an open heart and a sincere attempt to understand the other will help a lot to make things better here. Just realize no one is perfect in life. Neither do I, nor is you. Try to make yourself perfect for your spouse, than trying to make your spouse perfect for you. The willingness to share and forgive is very important in any relationship. And that is why I told you to have unconditional love. This will automatically help us to forgive and sacrifice our likes a little, and adjust a little. And that’s the essence of any relationship.

Digging about the past of the spouse is another trend which ruins marriages. I think it’s the most serious mistake people do. I don’t think there is a single person on earth who have not admired or have got attracted towards another member of the opposite sex before marriage. @least in their teens. Sometimes your spouse may have had a past relationship. Or sometimes it’s you who have had a broken love affair. Leave the past as past. Leave it as it is. If its your spouse who had an affair earlier, then forgive. And have a sigh of relief. Because he / she married only you and not the other person. If it’s you who have a haunting past, don’t try to compare your spouse with your ex lover. It’s a total waste of time. You don’t have the power to reverse anything that has happened. Consider your spouse the way he / she should be. Forget the past. Live the life in present. Attitude is a very important thing which could help you here. We cannot change the whole world. What we can do is to change our attitude. Yes it is everything. It depends on our attitude that if we are happy or not. And again happiness is a relative term too. It differs from person to person. Some find happiness in listening to music; some find it when they are watching a football match. Adjust yourself, Change your attitude, Live your life more better (because we have only one). Love your spouse as the way he / she is. Don’t try to bring them to your style. Instead you can try to adjust a little and life will be heaven if both do this. And always remember that life is not a bed of roses.. it’ll have thorns also. It’s not a dream world. Try to be in the reality. And do understand that marriage brings 2 families together, it’s not just two persons alone. It’s the start of a new life and the future lies in your hand.

(Hope I have not bored u to the core. I’d be happy if this could help anyone in their life. Well if any of u feel I have stated anything which contradicts with your concepts, a sorry in advance.. this is what I have in mind about a marriage life)

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED ?

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved , The rest is to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care , some people just dont care back

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust , and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do , no matter how we feel.

I've learned that regardless of how hot or steamy a relationship is at first , the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keepin score.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesnt give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've have learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesnt mean they dont love each other, and just because they dont argue, it doesnt mean they do .

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally differently.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children , they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.

I've learned that yor life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who dont even know you.

Dont Fake your emotions...

The below poem is abt one of my frnd who lost her love and trying to act as normal. I wish she claim her lost love... All the BEST.

Faking a laugh, Faking a smile,
Hiding the truth behind a Mask,
While ur heart is broke into pieces,
with every smile that u give,
that’s the life, that u live,
u used to believe in fairy tales,
thinking it’s a beautiful world,
then u appalled with the truth,
that this world holds,
u fool urself and hide behind ur dreams
U try to make everything as simple as it seems
but deep inside, there are thousands of bursting tears,
with every smile that u give
that’s the life that u live
ended up with a broken heart,
ended up with ur life ripped apart.
ended up left alone in the darkness,
crying,
Give up u r plastic smile and dont quit trying...
u have u r life ahead... reclaim u r lost SMILE n LOVE... ALL THE BEST.

Dont look behind

There Are Memories of Lost Love,
There Are Hearts That Lie Broken,
Things left undone,
Words Left Unspoken….
Don’t Look Behind…

There Are Tears Waiting To Fall,
There’S Pain Nobody Can Take,
There Are Memories Waiting To Hurt You-
Your Heart’S Gonna Break.
Don’t Look Behind…

You’re Never Goin To Return,
Whatever You’re Looking For… Is Gone,
You’Re Gonna Feel So Torn And Sad,
You’Re Goin To Feel Alone.
Don’t Look Behind…

There Are Friends Going Away,
Innocent Eyes Filled With Tears,
Because Of MeMories You’Ll Never Forget,
Built Up Inside Through The Years.
Don’t Look Behind…

The Hand You Want To Hold Is Slipping Away,
Your Feet Are Too Weak To Hold You,
You’Re Gonna Try To Be On Your Own,
There’S Nothing Much You Can Do.
Don’t Look Behind…

Unspoken Feelings

My wet eyes gazing at her eyes…Looking for blessed love
Deadly darkness scattered around…Touching the reflection in mirror

Completely lost in the moment…Held her hand last time
Soaking tears in misty looks…Suffering the separation inevitable

Hopes shattered in broken pieces…Feelings left unsaid mourning
Lost love, lost peace, lost life...Accepting the grief engulfed of parting

Dreams gone off beam, spark missing… Digging love’s grave with own hands
Devoid of the need of heart and mind…Going away never to come together again

Goodbye cutting through the soul….Leaving a void in my existence…She is going and going…

A mild sigh inside cry out…Be mine always…Don’t leave me ever….And ever

Live Life to the Fullest

Get up in morning with smiles and tears…Celebrating the survival instinct inside
Suffering haunts consciousness hears…Enduring the pains and gains living beside

Day passes in hustle and bustle for moon…Bright night’s immortal stars unfold
Running race against nearing death soon…Unnumbered days left with stories untold

Ordinary life, ordinary dreams, ordinary hopes… Fate laughs with odd twists loudly
Heartless mind goes with passion Thro actions…Desires in thoughts seizing soul totally

Challenges thrown without any sympathy…Facing life with complete empathy
Spirited heart endures absolute pains…Goodness inside wins amid brutal apathy

I am ready to face world in eyes…Embracing the mystery of next moment to survive
Love life, possess courage, enjoy light…Overcome the obstacles by learning to live

Passion for life…Gusto for rise…Heartens Me to live life to the fullest….Ah!

Sense in Sensex

Not a series of mountain peaks to be conquered

Today is 7/7/7

and yesterday the Sensex hit 15,000.

We strongly recommend that

if you are inclined to celebrate numbers,

you focus on the first.

The seventh day of the

seventh month of the seventh year of this

century means nothing.

But, plenty of fun can be had from the number 7.

It's all pretty harmless.

Not so at all with going gaga over the

Sensex every time it hits a multiple of 5.

This, let us hastily clarify,

is not the same as some of our more exuberant

Marxist politicians arguing

the stock market is irrelevant or evil.

The market is very relevant and a rising market is good news.

But everyone should grow up about good news.

It was sort of alright when the Indian economy

started coming out of the socialist purdah

- another clarification,

with a respectful nod towards the UPA's

presidential candidate;

the Mughals had nothing to do with this purdah either.

Those early post-reform days,

the hype and hoopla about the Sensex crossing number

'landmarks'

could be excused as part of India's rediscovery of itself.

The index, no matter what Marxists argued,

was a shorthand for newly acquired economic liberties.

Those were also the days the now almost forgotten

Capital Controller of Issues had been put out to pasture,

the stock market had started functioning like a market,

and rational assaults on desi peculiarities

like the badla system had begun.

So, yes, some over-thetop celebration was condonable.

But not now, surely?

When the Sensex hit 10,000 in February 2006,

the media was awash with images of mountain

peaks and snorting bulls.

It looked odd then - by early 2006 the reforms story

was a decade and half old, stock market concerns

had gone from adolescent excitement to mature

concerns about market depth and finer regulation.

Note should have been taken of the

'event' but it didn't deserve extravagant notices.

That applies even more now, when the Sensex has

travelled from 10,000 to 15,000 in a year and a few months.

Interestingly and instructively,

market participants themselves didn't hyperventilate

quite as much in the run-up to the 15,000 mark.

Maybe those on dealing floors and brokerages

have started reflecting the confidence of the

economy that underlies the market.

With confidence comes the ability to take good news in one's stride,

to look at the capital markets as a work in progress,

not a series of peaks to be conquered.

Non-market participants should take a cue.

And here's hoping that if and when the

Sensex hits 20,000 everyone will be so cool that these columns won't

need to argue for a little sobriety.

A Confession ...

one of the best things in my life is the oppurtunity of knowing u...

even if we don't have enough time to spend with each other i want u to know that i really treasure it...

life can be happier & less stressful, if we remember one simple thought: "we cant have all that we desire, but God will give us all that we deserve...."

remember: love can make us happy but sometimes it hurts but luv is only special when u give it to someone u really love...

i love u .... the best use of my life is love...

the best expression of love is time...

the best time of love is now...

life is all about love...

live in love all the days of your life....

i never planned to meet u...

i never expected knowing u either...

it was such a nice thing that...

expectations exist....

coz......... .

i never expected that i would "fall in love with you"...

thank you for introducing me to the joy of knowing you

because i got the best taste of life d moment we became "lovers"

happiness is not something u have in your hands..

its something u carry in your heart...

give it away generously and it will return 2 u a thousand fold.......

have a joyful day to u !!!!

keep it in mind always

that u'r in my heart, mind and soul always

i always love you...

love you......... .....

A friend who's always there

If I could catch a rainbow
I would do it just for you,
And share with you its beauty
On the days you're feeling blue

If I could build a mountain
You could call your very own,
A place to find serenity,
A place to be alone

If I could take your troubles
I would toss them in the sea,
But all these things I'm finding
Are impossible for me

I cannot build a mountain,
Or catch a rainbow fair,
But let me be what I know best,
A friend who's always there

SHE... :(

She stands in a field of black roses
Waiting for me.
She beckons with a skeletal finger,
And I shiver.
Eyes that are not there bore into me,
Sinking like claws into my brain.
“Come with me....”
From beyond the grave she reaches out,
Stronger than I ever was.
A hot, dry wind picks up as she nears me,
Yet somehow I am soaked.
A fleshless hand reaches up to caress my face
And I wake up,
Drenched in midnight sweat... :(

Maine socha na tha...

Ek din aap yoon humko mil jaayenge
Phool hi phool rahoon mein khil jaayenge
Maine socha na tha...

Ek din zindhagi ithni hogi haseen
Jhoomega aasmaan gayege ye zameen
Maine socha na tha...

Ek din dil ke raahon mein apne liye
Jal utenge mohabat ki itne dhiye
Maine socha na tha...

Silent Words

"A friend is someone with whom you can sit on a porch for a while, not speak and word, and leave satisfied that you have been listened to".
But did I believe in this? Never! Being the “If you have a mouth, you better speak” kind, I always felt it was important for people in any relationship to communicate. But some one changed it all. My friend P.Krishna or as I fondly call him – Tokkalo Krishna (T.Krishna)
Wheatish Blend, lean, Thorney hair and a nice moustache, he is one guy whom I believe would have suited the CBI. Reason: Well, he remains practically invisible.
He would only ask questions pertaining his ever expansive quest for knowledge. Despite having a crammed worktable, I have never seen him complain about work but he do have problems at work noticed by others.

A pukka introvert, when it comes to brains, he sure is a champ. He can pick nuances which may otherwise be invisible to others. No wonder he is a part of the ILFS Ops and doing lots of certification cources. Don’t know what he is going to do with the certificates hope he don’t open a shop for certificates he he he.

I often know him as my "Crash Test Dummy". This, cause every time I came up with a new line or concept, I would recite it to him and one of my frns in US. If he did not like something, taking care that he does not hurt my creative spirit, he would give me answers like “It’s nice, but…” with an ex-pression that said it all. Never did I ever hear him use the word “bad”. Amazing na?In the whole day, we would speak like a few lines every few hours. The times were when we were working in vizag we used to go around in evening after office for snacks mostly we like those pokodas, chat , pani poori and always our best MIRCHI BAJJI and only in road side Baddi there would be a chocolate that he would offer me which I was more than happy to snatch than accept.

He has this most amazing smile that I have seen when he did things for others. So unconditional, so honest, so wonderful. He also has other kind of smile when he remembers the moments spent with his GF… and speak about his 245th first love I guess… he he he J sorry bae…

He is a loser in Love just because he cant express himself. He has lots of silent words which is worth than expressing… DuDe don’t worry you will defenetely find a gal of u r dreams…

We joined different companies, Krishna is working in Hyderabad and I am somewhere in Europe for few months. Somehow my work space seems so vacuumed hence. I miss his presence, seeing his wonderful smile in the morning, hearing his Andhra accented Hindi (Kaisa hai Be?) and his presence. No, not that I can’t go and meet him, but it’s a different feel all together and I like it.

This is just 1 side of this guy… I ll post about his all other side of Life…

I miss you Krishna, and I shall, for as long as my work place exists. You sure proved “silent words” exist.

The Mirror has many faces

When I sleep I sometimes fall in the arms of dreams and I am totally ruled by them as they take me up and down through dreamland. Sometimes in my dreams I presented with a very complicated problem which is unsolvable, except my mind keeps looking for the solution and builds up into such frenzy that I get up with an aching head and totally confused. One of my dreams has me standing in one of those old fashioned trial rooms with mirrors on all sides and if you look into one mirror then you see multiple reflections of the same you. I like to focus on only one of the many images that I can see and try to ignore the other images. It is almost as if I like that particular image of myself and I want to keep focusing on that as I stand in the trial room. One of these nights when I had this dream, I had trouble focusing on that image and the whole effort of it broke my sleep and I got up and started to think about this dream and its implications in real life. To me the parallels with real life were easy to draw. I see myself, as I am today, in many images and I like to potray myself in different images to different people. All of the images put together would probably define me the best rather than each image by itself. Each image has its element of truth, hope and fantasy. There is some truth or the image wouldn’t have generated to begin with but I also hope and fantasise about completely being the person that I seek to potray in my image. Sometimes the image comes out unconsciously without me knowing it. Reading through the archives of my blog I see images of myself that I didn’t know existed. If I now had to sit and write on the same issues I would probably churn out a totally different post. Totally different thought process and conclusion.In all this there is how I imagine myself to be. That one image that I focus on in my dream and that I like the most. That is how I imagine myself to be. Under the harsh gaze of my eyes sometimes this image breaks down to nothing and I stand naked in front of the mirror just the way I am. Growing up I was horrified at seeing myself without an image but now I have come to like myself better this way. The image is slowly changing and it is resembling more and more of me. It is becoming more and more like a glass which is slowly getting cleared. The process is not easy but it is gratifying to say the least. The world looks much clearer now. I want to say simpler but I don’t think that is the case, atleast not yet.

Dreams ! Sigh !!

Am I the only one who dreams so much ? No, this is definitely not about day-dreaming. Of late, I have been whelmed by so many dreams when I am deep asleep. I even tried sleeping in the living room instead of the bedroom; and as expected, there was a difference. The dream count went down!I was wondering if I can get the meaning of this through, but then I have dreams within dreams. Does that sound crazy ? But still, thats what it is. I am sleeping in my dream and am actually visualising the dream of the 'sleeping dream me' ! I don't usually remember all my dreams when I wake up, especially if they are just an extension of the day's happenings or a projection of my thoughts. But some dreams remain so vividly in my mind long after I am awake, giving me this eerie feeling that it did actually happen in some plane.In theology, the theory is that it is the consciousness that actually creates and sustains the entire creation. And so we are all part of some dream. And thats what makes me feel that the dreams that I have are part of some other world too. And many times I am glad that they are not part of this world. I have dreams on death. Not mine though. And I wake up in the morning with a clear impression of the dream. And then I would share the dream with my mother to find some inner meaning to it. By the way, my mom and grandmom are ace dream interpreters, though I am their only patron. And they are of the opinion that dreams of death are actually harbingers of some happy event in the near future. Death in dream means good in reality ? Doesn't really make sense to me though.

Along the Path

Life is spent in an inexplicable search for an unknown truth. Along the way, the journey gets so absorbing that one is no longer feverish about the trail or even the destination. When anxiety about the future and regret over the past ceases and a sense of gratitude and fullness about the present moment dawns, the destination is reached.Along the Path Bound by myself, fettered by me,I seek, I strive, to set my soul free.The restless burning to just ‘be’ Unfurls umpteen paths ahead of me.A mystic angel along the path helps,As I take hesitant infant steps.Never wanting to trace my trail back,I trust, endure and progress on track.I falter at times, at times I swayI persevere to keep distractions at bay.I want to move on, I know I do,On this enigmatic quest for truth and virtue.I know not what instilled faith in meWhat made me this vast world seeIn a renewed light of amazed awe;With gratitude to ‘be’, here and now.

The cause of unhappiness

After some thinking, I have found the cause of unhappiness. It is nuclear weapons. The economics and psychology behind my finding is simple. The reason for your not figuring it out is also related to the reason why we are unhappy.
People have long noted that money does not make us happy. This is true, and should have been obvious to anyone who has conceptual understanding of the human mind. The human mind has a finite capacity for happiness. Just because you possess more material wealth than your parents, you are no happier than they, because, after all, you inherited your mind and consequently the capacity for happiness from them. Besides, it is well-known that your mind obtains satisfaction by comparing itself with what it had yesterday, and what others have today, not with what your parents had a generation ago. This fact combined with the laws of diminishing margin return and diminishing marginal utility are adequate to explain why we are unhappy. The law of diminishing marginal return ensures that our economic growth slows down as our economy grows, and the law of diminishing marginal utility means that every percentage point of growth gives me less additional happiness than the last one gave me.
I have not expounded anything new so far. Many philosophers, psychologists and economists have figured this out. But having discovered this, they then make the mistake of assuming that money does not matter. That is nonsense. We are happy when we are getting rich, not when we are rich. I am happy now that I have a house with a bedroom window that opens out to greenery, but that is only because I spent my childhood in a Maharashtra Housing Board house that opened out to other people’s windows. The problem is that my son will grow up used to such relative affluence. That will not make him happy and so he will join a religious cult in search of happiness. What can be done to avoid such an eventuality?
One idea that I thought of is to slow down economic growth to a crawl, so that people can savour every moment of it. Unfortunately, this is unworkable. People will get bored of slow growth and soon rebel. Besides, this will only postpone the problem, not solve it.
I had gotten thus far in my ruminations and was getting no further, when enlightenment struck me in the checkout counter of Shop Rite here in New Jersey, where I am currently located. The medium for the enlightenment was the cover of the latest edition of “Cosmopolitan”, which promised that the reader would find inside “8 sex positions we have never told you before about!”
It occurred to me that this was impossible, given the laws of Physics. Cosmopolitan has been introducing supposedly new sex positions in every one of its issues. The human body’s skeletal structure puts certain limits on how many degrees of freedom it has. Assuming sex between two people, it is easy to calculate the upper limit on how many sex positions there can be. It is reasonably certain that the there have been more issues of the Cosmopolitan than this theoretical upper limit. The Cosmopolitan, I reflected, has fallen victim to the same malaise that afflicts society as it tries to squeeze out the last vestiges of interest from readers who are saturated with information.
I concluded that in today’s society, life was difficult for moderately intelligent people. In the past, they’d read books by more intelligent people and interpret them for others. But now with easy access to information, everyone has access to information, interpretations of information, interpretations of interpretations of information, ad nauseum. So the moderately intelligent economist, not finding a job explaining basic economics to people, is often engaged in the supremely pointless task of discovering “Islamic banking”, which is basically an exercise in finding new words for interest, or “Socialism with a market face” which is basically an exercise in finding new words for profit-making, etc.”
The same crisis affects the moderately talented novelist who has to find an aspect of the human condition unexplored before, the moderately talented artiste who has to find a dance routine not danced before and the moderately talented comedian who has to find a joke not made before.
The culprit in all these cases, I mused as I paid for my groceries (and completely forgot to pick up a case of orange juice, thereby losing 2 dollars - 90 rupees!) was society’s ready access to information. If society could periodically lose its store of knowledge, then it would make life better for a large number of people as they rediscovered essential philosophical truths, invented the same sex positions once again and explored the same aspects of the human condition once again.
I then realised that I had the key to human happiness, viz periodic destruction.
The long period of relative peace that we are enjoying now is unnatural. If society were periodically destroyed by war, pestilence and famine, then the period between those disasters would be spent in rebuilding society. The daily struggle for existence would make people aware of the value of acquiring and building wealth. Having watched the death of their brothers, men would realise the importance of family and would be closer to their fellow men. They could afford the joys of a large family, in fact they’d need to have large families because when the next wave of destruction comes, most of their children would be killed and only a few would remain to carry on the family name. Great art could be written, because it is only in times of suffering that meaningful art is written. Great discoveries would be remade and great sex can be had, but then I repeat myself.
Now the perceptive and the moderately intelligent among you might have an obvious question. You might say that while people might be at their happiest in the interval between waves of destruction, would not the periods of destruction be times of great unhappiness? Would a netting out not occur, leaving us no happier than before?
No. That would not be true. Remember that it is much easier to destroy than to build, which is another way of saying that the period of recovery would be inevitably longer than the period of destruction. When the plague comes, or a war happens, people are very unhappy of course, but then they quickly adjust to their new condition, and they reconcile themselves to the long, but immensely fulfilling task of rebuilding from the debris of their previous world.
This then is the recipe to happiness. What prevents us from achieving it? A moment’s thought tells us that the culprit has to be nuclear weapons. While it is clear that economic progress will inevitably cure us of famine and plague, there is no reason why it should have caused an end to wars. Wars are fought with other humans who also have access to the fruits of progress, so in theory we could have fought wars for ever, and wars would have brought famine and plague back with them. These three horsemen would together take us back to the paradise where there was a world waiting to be rebuilt, and a whole ocean of knowledge to be rediscovered.
Unfortunately, one awful invention came about to bring an untimely end to the endless cycle of human happiness and, by causing a pestilential peace, has left us in a state of uneasy unhappiness, and that is the nuclear bomb. I don’t need to tell you how it has made war unthinkable - you know the deal. You will hear the spiel from many “peace activists” who will simultaneously warn us that we shouldn’t fight each other because nuclear weapons have made war too awful to contemplate, and in the next breath call for an abolition of nuclear weapons, without realising that they are in fact contradicting themselves. But I call for the abolition of nuclear weapons for a truly justifiable purpose - the advancement of human happiness by periodic destruction of society.
This then is my contribution to happiness research. Many economists are trying to come up with a measure for happiness, so that they can improve upon the GDP as a measure of how well we are doing. They do not realise that what they are faced with is not a measurement problem, but a conceptual and philosophical problem: What is happiness? I hope that by shedding light on this tricky subject, I have advanced the cause of the human race, and I also hope that the next great wave of destruction will erase this knowledge from our consciousness, to be rediscovered by my happy intellectual descendants.

Thoughts

What makes one feel the divinity in another person ? Everyone is divine, just that in some it is more conscious, so conscious that people who come in contact with them are able to feel the divine presence.I think you feel the divinity of a person when you feel so at home and comfortable with them. You have never known them before, you have never mingled or socialized with them before, but yet you feel so much at ease and peace with them. You feel they are at the same 'level' as you and they seem to understand you instantly and connect with you very deeply, yet very very effortlessly. And not just you, but everyone around seems to feel exactly the way you feel about this person. Even children.Then again, you feel comfortable with people with whom you have been around with for a reasonably long period of time. So that means you already recognize the divinity in the other person! Isn't that so ? It takes divinity to recognize divinity. We feel the presence because we have the presence within us - just like how it takes a magnetic pole to attract another.

Unknowingly..

It is better to do some things without knowing why it is being done. You see, then there is no expectation about the fruit of that action. Well, if not always, atleast most of the times. This thought crosses my mind whenever I try to reason out the science or logic behind a tradition or religious ritual. While it is good to know why we follow some of these traditions, it is also good at times to 'blindly' follow what elders say. They have tried it and nothing ill befell them after all. When we know what comes out of an action, the attention shifts from the action to the result of the action. Dissecting the action to discern the reason behind it almost kills the spirit of it. I am sure many of you will not agree with me on this. Superstitions are something we all want to rid our mind and lives of. But when we come across religious practices that we cannot comprehend with our mere intellect, shouldn't we give the benefit of doubt to our ancestors ? Just because our finite mind is unable to find a logical explanation, it doesn't mean one doesn't exist, right ?I am definitely not talking about blind beliefs that have sprung up in the last few centuries. I am talking about practices that have come down from Vedic times. While it is important that we discriminate between the sensible and unsensible, we also need to ensure that we do not miss out on things which are in fact good to us, but have been lost because of the mind's endless need to reason.

The Twilight

Years have gone by, and days are yet to come

They put it together to call it life

I wonder what mine will become

A seed springs to life, a new chapter begins

And will come the dawn of a fresh new day

But the sun that lit my past dims

Mixed feelings as disappears into oblivion the last ray

All those yesterdays will remain like a melody

Coming to my rescue when need be

Restoring belief as life goes haywire and unplanned

Those days, those people-always my best song and my best band

Multiple thoughts-alive as a rainbow and dead as stone

The dawn tomorrow will bring into life new sounds and tone

A new goal to reach, a mark to set

New people to meet, bigger dreams to get

But between yesterday and tomorrow lies today

I'll be strong forever, if someone can get me past this day

If only I could make it disappear, if I could this little period stand

For this present- the twilight, is a no man's land...